Is it ok to ghost someone? I’ve been talking to someone for over a year. I stopped texting him two weeks ago because I lost feelings and said I need space. He said ok and that he’d wait for me to reach out. I have no desire to reach out and would rather go on my way. At the same time, I feel like I should talk to him for closure - he deserves that. Am I horrible for leaning towards just leaving it as is? 🤷🏽‍♀️

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A year is a pretty long time. Imagine yourself in his position, waiting on a response back from you.. you should tell him it’s over. Even something simple - like not feeling compatible, don’t see much of a future, etc - is better than leaving him hanging.

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Ghosting is a rude thing to do just to avoid a bit of awkwardness. That person has put themselves out there and made themselves vulnerable to you; if you care/cared about the other person, just be straightforward.
On a larger scale, the things that we do in our relationships teach behaviors for next relationships - after being ghosted, their next relationship they may ghost because “that’s what people do nowadays”.

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I think ghosting is warranted in certain situations, but in rhis this case it is not. You’ve been talking for a year!! Come on, you know the answer to this question. You should be open with him and at least give him closure

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If I’ve never met you, don’t really know who you are, exchanged only a few texts and am not interested- I think it is warranted to ghost to give indication that I’m not interested. And the other person should get the signal without me having to explicitly explain. And I would be understanding if the other person did the same to me. Neither of us owe anything to each other at this point

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If the roles were reversed, would you have wanted him to reach out? I would say just be honest with him. People lose feelings all the time, so just tell him that and if he can’t accept it, that’s on him.

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