Is it really a gay thing to talk to your ex and stay in touch?

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Yes it’s a stereotype but holds true for most in the gay community. My ex texted me the morning of her wedding to tell me she missed me. But then again she’s a raging narcissist so…

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I’m friends with most of my ex’s. Apart from a couple toxic nutcases. Sometimes it turns out that romance doesn’t work out but that person is a great human otherwise.

As long as there’s no real harm, abuse, or toxic behaviour, I don’t see why not.

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I do not do this. We broke up for a reason.

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We send each other dog memes and videos two years after calling it quits. No words exchanged otherwise - I think this is the only way to do it

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Yep. I’m best friends with 3 of my exes. I don’t see the point of getting rid of a person just because you’re no longer romantically attracted to them. But, if they were horrible to you, that’s a different story.

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It really depends on the circumstances of the breakup. I have a wonderful ex who let me down kindly and I love him now like a brother, truly. I have a different ex who was toxic and hurtful to extraordinary lengths who also wants to be friends (narcissism likely) and I'm trying hard to prevent contact.

There are no "rules". Do what works. Case by case.

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No it’s a stupid thing. Smart gay people don’t do that.

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I did this nonsense for 6 years. Finally blocked and cut off all contact with the psycho once and for all last month. I can't begin to tell you how liberating it has been.

Unfortunately we also had a very common friend group, so I pretty much lost all my friends! 🤷‍♂️

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If you lost them over this then they weren’t friends in the first place. At least not good ones.
Onward and upward, friend!

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I always feel like I’m one of very few lesbians who IS NOT friends with any exes. But it isn’t on purpose necessarily, we just fell out of touch naturally and I left it alone.

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