Is it selfish that I'm considering a personal vacation over seeing family for the holidays? My parents and siblings are all healthy and happy and I saw them at Thanksgiving, and this is my first single Christmas. I'd really rather book a flight to somewhere warm from Christmas Eve-New Years and spend the holiday on a beach with a book. Should I just suck it up and take a vacay in the spring?

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Go do whatever makes you happy. Life is short

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Same boat here but we have to do what's best for our soul. You can see family when it's not as expensive after the holidays. Don't let hallmark holidays shame you into thinking you have to see family on the specific dates of the year

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As much as it sounds nice to go on a personal holiday, Christmas is for family. Maybe being around them will help you feel okay about being single this year?

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No it isn’t, do what makes you happy and you just saw each other at Thanksgiving. Be well!

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Not at all. There's nothing selfish about wanting an alone time for the holidays. But I think you need to explain your reason so they would understand where you're coming from. It will be your first solo Christmas, and for your family, it would probably be their first Christmas without you.

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Nope. You do you. Just explain to your family that you needed this 'me time' for personal growth and reflection. You're not selfish.

I think your family would be understanding, especially if you just saw them!

Nope not at all. It’s called self-care. If your family is anything like mine being around them does more harm then good. They’re very negative and expect you to care about what they think when you just don’t (about your life and how you decide to live - cause you’re doing great). Go take such much needed R&R. You’re an adult right and don’t owe any explanation to anyone.

I’ve spent Christmas Eve with the Family then flown out on Christmas day. Best of both worlds. 🎄🏝️

There's nothing selfish with wanting to spend time for yourself without having to worry about other people. Don't feel guilty. You're entitled to your own time and what you wanna do with it. Just lay it to them gently that you're planning on unwinding and that holidays are a little too stressful for you.

You have to put in your life jacket first. Do what makes you happy

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