Is it true that women who have terminal or serious illnesses are often divorced by their husbands or male partners? My friend was just diagnosed with cancer, and she's terrified her husband will leave her while she's in recovery. Have any of you seen this happen?

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So in the US at least, part of that is also do to our absolutely terrible healthcare system. Treating cancer is very expensive and if you're married then your spouse's assets/income count as yours as well. This prevents a lot of people from qualifying for Medicaid. They then divorce so that way only their assets/income will count and they can qualify in order to be able to afford to receive care.

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Yes “Medicaid divorces” are quite common so I hear!

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Wow, I didn't know this was such a huge thing. After reading the comments, I'm heartbroken. I hope your friend's husband is there to love her in sickness and in health just like he vowed to.

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It happens. But it doesn't happen to everyone, that's for sure. My grandmother had cancer and my grandfather took care of her in his own little ways as he's wheelchair-bound himself. My grandfather died a few months after my grandma. Twin flames, I believe so. My point is, if you're with the right person, them leaving you when you need them the most is never an option for them. There are no excuses.

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If she's got a good one, it won't happen. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year. Chemo, surgeries, radiation. And my husband took care of me the whole way. It actually brought us closer together. My thoughts go out to your friend.

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That’s what I heard, maybe her husband it’s different than all the other cowards.

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Where did you get that? I've seen and heard a lot of beautiful stories about love and devotion. I refuse to believe that.

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You’re not in touch with reality if you refuse to believe these real-life stories. Life isn’t just a fairytale with all happy endings. And life isn’t always what you want it to be. Unfortunately, bad things happen to good people everyday, that’s just the sad reality of it. It’s important that we support and be kind to one another during a crisis, because sometimes that’s all we have.

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Yes it happens often. I have transplant experience and lots of women waiting end up divorced.

I’ve heard that it happens as well. My friend’s sister had pancreatic cancer while 7 months pregnant. Her husband cheated on her up until her death. If she has survived, would’ve probably ended up in divorce as well.

Unfortunately, it does happen often. It's especially upsetting that men are faster to divorce their wives than the other way around.

I know that it is very common for men to cheat in situations like this. I have seen it happen several times. Only one couple ended up getting a divorce but it was because of the infidelity.

Yes, this does happen unfortunately. Have seen it on a personal level. Some of those spouses feel the situation is too much of a burden and they just want to continue living their life the way they want, focusing on themselves and their needs.

This is a sad reality. I met a few women who experienced the same thing. I hope your friend's marriage remain intact.

Maybe in America ther is some data that shows this. But for the most part I would like to think otherwise, or maybe I'm just hopeful that this doesn't happen to me or anyone I know. It would be really frightening having to traverse a terminal illness alone.

This always reminds me of that old couple from Love and Other Drugs, where an old husband takes care of his wife who has Alzheimer's. He says that it's not pretty, but that is the woman I love and promised to take care of. That's why he does it.

That is definitely one of the scarier situations out there. Praying that I find a good husband who will not leave me through sickness. Hoping it comes true

I’ve heard about it and that it happens a lot.

When my grandpas last wife had cancer in the 90s he stuck with her until she passed. Same thing with my aunt and uncle when my aunt was diagnosed, she passed in their house and years later he still has issues letting go of her stuff.

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