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Is it unprofessional, politically incorrect, or a micro-aggression to ask an Indian coworker if they celebrate Diwali?
The intention is just to say happy Diwali, but I’m not sure if that’s the same as asking someone their religion, which can sometimes be seen as rude.

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As an Indian, I love Diwali wishes, and there’s a reason.

Indians make up for ~1.2% of US population, so we’re obviously a minority. Diwali isn’t going to be a national, local, or company holiday. I may take couple days off, but still pretty much working that week. While I’m feeling all joyous and festive, do I want my colleagues to just never know about it, or do I want them to be part of my joy - or at least acknowledge it by wishing me? I prefer latter.

In India, we believe that joy grows when you share and sorrow shrinks when you share. I invite everyone to share my joy. Please feel free to wish me “Happy Diwali”.

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Who?

It’s probably my growing age that I am confused about the true intent of your question and some not so apparent hidden sarcasm or meaning here that’s causing some respondents to act grumpy.

If my simple mind understood the question correct then my response would be that ask all you want and don’t be overtly sensitive about hurting someone’s feeling when your intent is just wishing them something nice. World’s already a complicated place, let’s not add more to the unnecessary formalities. As an Indian, I feel happy that the culture is being recognized more and it’s a micro step towards some equity in little things that matter a little.

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The trendiest thing for white people to do. Please tell us how woke you are for saying happy Diwali since you have one Indian coworker.

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I am a bad Hindu but I wish merry Christmas. Eid, hanuka and more. Some of you just think too much.

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Wtf is happening in the world that people are discussing for 150 comments whether it’s offensive to wish someone a happy holiday?

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I don’t network

I’m Indian but don’t celebrate Diwali - I absolutely hate being asked if I celebrate. It’s almost the same as if you ask every white person if they celebrate Hanukkah

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People! This is why we have Festivus!

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Indian here. That’s a super massive hyper-aggression. Totally do it ✅💯

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I mean as long as you aren’t making it sound like you are Michael Scott making fun of Kelley… you should be fine

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Don't invite any zombies to a celebration of Diwali. Along came Polly to have some fun at Diwali. If you're Indian and you love to party, have a happy, happy, happy, happy Diwali.

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Don’t overthink it so much

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Indian here. Nothing wrong with it at all. People get offended over everything these days. No harm in asking if they celebrate. If they don’t, they’ll tell you and you can move on lol

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Most people are polite and they wouldnt take your wishes in other ways. There are other religions in india who do not celebrate. Most would graciously thank you and few may say i dont celebrate.

Dont overthink.

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Just asking for knowledge sake. I feel it maybe the definition of “celebration” here that may be in question as well. E.g. Hindu celebrations maybe focused on religious rituals given its a religious festival for them, and for that reason non-Hindus may not “celebrate” in that same way. But beyond that, wishing people happy Diwali from a context of wishing someone best of health, life etc. and eating food with family or friends may still be that many regardless of their faith would “celebrate”. Similar to how many non-Christians may not celebrate Christmas per se in its religious form, but wouldn’t shy away from wishing others or eating food etc.

You can just ask if they’re doing anything special today/this weekend so you don’t outright say diwali and assume something

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I'm South Asian and I personally don't see anything wrong with saying Happy Diwali, but maybe only wish the person if you interact with them frequently and have tested the waters to know they won't get offended by your well wishes? Lol can't believe we've reached this point where even wishing Happy Diwali is considered a "micro-aggression"...

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Hit the snooze bar. No need to be THAT woke

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This thread is hilarious!!! I don't think TA1 is Indian- forget Diwali, he doesn't know what T20 is. That's a disgrace.

TA1 - please do not mention to anyone that you are Indian.

I am an Indian and been here in the US for many years. Typically I would wish everyone (who I would see, meet etc at work) for Christmas and the usual Happy Holidays. Beyond that, if I know someone is from another culture, and I heard from them about a festival, then I would wish and ask more details. Else I wouldn't say something assuming their country, religion, etc. Diwali wishes go to family and close friends. If anyone wishes me Diwali, it's great. If they wish me about any other festival, I politely tell them I do not celebrate that particular festival but if he/she invites me, I am game. I am all about good food and party mood!!!

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You cannot afford me...and I won't hire you! No idea why you think I am offshore. Not surprised to read absurdity in your words. I will only wish you good luck and hope you grow up...

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“Hey, Happy Diwali.
If you celebrate, any cool plans or traditions?”

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Festivius For The Restofus

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Everyone celebrates the airing of grievances!

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WWYDTAWP? What would you do to a white person? That’s what you should always ask yourself.

It’s the same as with a white colleague. Would you wish that person Happy Easter not knowing whether or not they are Christian?

While we’re at it. Would you ask that white person which country their ancestors are from? No? STOP asking Asians where they’re from/what country their ancestors are from.

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Also, more food for thought:

Most European Americans are actually only ~2-3 generations removed from the immigrant generation (essentially the grandchildren of immigrants). E.g. Donald Trump is the son of an immigrant (mother) and grandson of an immigrant (father’s side).

Most Japanese Americans are 4-5 generations removed from the immigrant generation.

Guess which group of people gets asked more a variation of “Where are you from?” “Where are your parents from?” Etc.

Important note: not saying that any group is more “American” than another based on how long they’ve been in America. What I’m saying is that the notion this question is based on, is not only racially biased, it’s not even factually accurate.

I’m saying that we’re all American and should be treated the same.

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White 'Murkan here.. I'd only wish someone happy Diwali if I knew what it was. But I don't. So I won't.

If I had a coworker say they were celebrating it, I'd learn what it is and have an appropriate response. But I don't. So I won't.

There's definitely a difference between being aware and respectful of other cultures and being so woke you're cringe. I wish I knew a really clear way to define the difference.

But I don't. So I won't.

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Lol.. why over think it so much. I wished a few guys I really liked from my last client Happy Diwali and they were so happy to hear from me.

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It’s not microagression… y’all take things way too far.

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It really isn’t. People just don’t know what the difference is.

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Indian American here - if someone at work went out of their way to wish me happy Diwali I would find it weird. It assumes a lot about a person’s religion / religiousness. My family is Hindu and celebrates but I don’t on my own and nor do most of my Indian American friends. I wouldn’t go out of my way to wish a Muslim colleague happy Eid or whatever either. Idk it just feels like it singles that person out based on their race/name and assumes they’re pretty religious

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PwC6- I grew up in India in a Hindu family, but surprise surprise, not all Indian Hindu families celebrate Diwali. There are regions of the country who could care less for religious holidays, and clearly you don’t seem to know that. You don’t get to tell me what my heritage is- I suggest you educate yourself on how broad Indian heritage is, rather than pointing fingers at others.

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