Is it weird that my friend (non-law college friend) insists on knowing how much I have in student loans? She is not interested in going to law school. I refused to answer and she wouldn’t take no for an answer. Said she just wants to know my finances. “Does the number start with a 1 or 2 or 3?” Gut feeling tells me she doesn’t have my best interest at heart? I really can’t figure out why she’s doing this

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If she’s not some weird predatory loan consolidation type, lol, my guess is that this is coming from a place of jealousy about your salary where she wants to make herself feel better by judging your debt load or financial decisions. Tell her to knock it off.

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Just make up an artificially low loan balance to drive her further insane.

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Very odd lol just don’t answer

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Use your words:

"Sara, I prefer not to discuss specifics of my financials."

"Sara, I'd prefer not to talk about details."

"Sara, I'm not sure why you're so fixated on this. Please drop it. It's not your business."

"Sara, this questioning is intrusive and makes me uncomfortable. Please stop."

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Karen*

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Doesn’t matter whether the person is non-law. This is a weird and quite frankly I would not call this person a friend.

None of my friends and I (I have a range of friends who make as low as $80K to as high as $450K) talk about finances unless it’s the couple friends that I talk about investments with.

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I discuss finances freely with my friends. If you’re more reserved, then just do not answer. If you feel weird sharing because you do not trust her, then she is not a “friend.”

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Then just don’t answer, I guess?

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You can say “enough to make me glad I’m in biglaw and making over 200k”

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Tell her if she wants to know to law school and find out directly

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Like Delilah pressing Samson...weird.

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Try this. Tell her that your student debt is insignificant. Then drop your voice an octave and say, "But I owe a tremendous debt to ... other entities. They hunger, and I must prepare their repast."

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She is nuts. Hard pass on that friendship.

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Is this just a friend or a friend friend (gf, romantic sort) That would be better to know first to guage why she’d want to know.

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I see, then yeah—it’s none of her business.

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Tell her your enemies prevent you from sharing this information, but if she really cares she will venmo you $5k for protection against these enemies.

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I don’t see why you even care so much, why do people get so insecure about student loan balances? Who cares

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What’s the big secret?

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I don’t see it being a big issue. That’s just me.

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Tell her starts with an 4. $4,000 😎

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Pretty embarrassing to have a friend like this. You can do better

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I hate when my non-law friends try to justify the salary gap by saying “well, you have a lot of student loan debt.”

I want to be petty and call out that I make 4x more than them, and the only way the gap would be justified is if my student loan debt were in the millions.

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Thank you all so much for the helpful and kind responses ❤️🙏. I am grateful to have found this community.

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