Is RBF even a real thing? You don’t see men not smiling or men that look intimidating getting called out on it. Kind of getting tired of always having to put a slight smile on my face on zoom calls 🥲

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I grew up in the hood. RBF was my survival skill.

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My husband totally has RBF, and in the office would often have coworkers ask him if he was ok bc they thought he looked upset lol I think people just find that intimidating when it’s a man rather than off-putting or feeling entitled for you to smile at them when you’re a woman. In college people would comment that he was intimidating before they got to know him, & at work it’s mostly just concern that he’s not happy

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Yes my husband looks angry in neutral face. I mean, I don’t think he gets feedback to change it, but he’s not in client service. He started his career at MBB, didn’t work out for a variety of reasons but it could have been a favor. Also he does have to deal with sometimes negative consequences of people finding him scary.

Give yourself a break from video calls as much as you can. Also RBF is only real to people who apparently have nothing better to do on these calls but project onto you their own issues. That is how I see it anyway so in my opinion yes, it exists if people want it to exist. If you are not bothered by other people’s RBF than you are likely a normal person and expect of others to treat you as you treat them.

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This is why I love masks and hope we never stop wearing them. Doesn’t help with zoom calls, but it helps when out and about.

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😭 gonna try to avoid turning on my video unless necessary!!

What is RBF?

Resting b*h face

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