Is the culture of saying "thank you" not a thing here esp for holiday gifts? I was raised to thank people explicitly if someone went out of their way, even a quick acknowledgment - "hey I got your X, thanks for the thought". I've now observed this too many times over the years from my clients, bosses, teams, EA to wonder if it's my sense of etiquette that needs a reset. Mind you, the people in question are great people who I have great relationships with so I'm at a loss.

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Don’t take it personally. I am always taught to be thankful and grateful. They are not taught to be so. Just take it easy.

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Yep I don't... because as I said, the relationships are fine and the people in question reciprocate in other ways, but the lack of an explicit acknowledgment is something I've found odd and I was trying to fig out if it was a cultural / generational difference that I was oblivious to.

This is a serious flaw that is getting worse over the years. Old school America and some well mannered families still practice good etiquette, but by and large most people don’t care or simply don’t have the etiquette. I’m one of those who calls or emails people on their birthdays, I’m always sending a gift for weddings or significant events, and every holiday season I give my clients and teams small gifts. It is only rarely that I get a thank you or acknowledgement. It used to really bother me, but I’ve learned to grudgingly accept the ghosted acknowledgment. It is a sad state of affairs, where basic mannerisms is a dying trait in America!

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It’s the new gen that i’ve seen lack basic etiquettes of what we consider basic. Times are changing so who knows thank you will be a thing of the past 🥺

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Aapke clients, bosses, teams kay sanskar acche nahi hai bandhu

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Hmm...mujhe lag to yahi rha tha but socha crowd source kar lein

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Kahan palley bade ho?

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D1 gaon se hain bhai. Dehaati ek dum

People are pretty socially awkward. Also, I’d make a distinction between cards and gifts. In general, people don’t really acknowledge cards, gifts is a mixed bag.

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Cool! So you've observed the same, it validates some of what I've been seeing and yeah I meant gifts.

When I was in my 20s I always made it a point to send a couple of seniors who had helped me through the year a gift during the holidays as a gesture of thanks for their help and support. I never received an explicit thank you from them (I never expected it - I was the one saying thanks by way of the gift) but there was always the “hey my wife and I really liked the bottle
of wine you sent” type of acknowledgment at some point in the new year. I never really did a lot of gift giving / receiving in India so I’m not sure how that compares.

Assuming you're the famous chef SAP - the only gift you should be worried about is cooking amazing things in huge quantities. Chappar phad ke "thank you" bolenge 🙏🏽

If someone forwarded me a holiday email greeting/card that I know is a mass email, I would not respond
Send me a personalized email or a gift and I will respond with a thank you and be a lot more appreciative.
Did you bcc a bunch of people on a mass holiday greeting? Cause thats annoying

All the EAs I've ever delt with have been very gracious and appreciate of Holiday gifts. However, I do know they generally prefer cash because they don't make as much as professionals and they do alot. They even do personal requests which are things that are not in their job description. Perhaps your EA is simply ungrateful but that is certainly not the reaction of a typical EA.

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