Is the saying “man of the house” sexist?

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Yes, and has been for decades. (speaking as a middle-aged white male)

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Yes, I own my house and I am not a man. My boyfriend lives with me in my house. I am head of the house, premier ruler and Queen!

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Yes, in what world is this a question?

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As a woman, I don’t see it as sexist unless you are a plumber coming to my home to fix the nasty clogged toilet and point blank ask me if you can speak to the man of the house. THAT is sexist.

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But the assumption that you couldn’t possibly know anything about it is sexist.

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It’s 2021, so obviously anything referencing gender or race regardless off how it’s used must be “insert”ist

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Yes

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Not even remotely sexist. It’s a statement of fact.

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Inherently sexist based on the origins and why it's even a phrase, but often used without intending to be derogatory.

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Not unless you are saying it to a woman: “is the man of the house home?” In what context is it being used? Sometimes it’s said to a boy when his father is away: “so, you are the man of the house this week?”

It’s a bit old fashioned and is used more ironically these days, IMHO.

I’m a 50-yo male and often wish there was a “man of the house”‘around to deal with all the adulting that I am bad at. 😂 (and I live with my same sex partner).

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No (and I’m a woman)

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I prefer lord of the manor

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Yes, of course.

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I suppose I’m in the minority. I don’t see how it’s sexist.

You’re simply stating you’re the male head of the household. Your wife would be the female HOH. In a same sex relationship there would be two (fe)males of the house.

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Queen of the Castle

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Nah

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No

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Not when it’s the woman

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I think the implied power and "ownership" dynamic make it questionable. I don't think it is necessary to say "man of the house," "woman of the house," or "head of household" - what is it's use other than "othering" other occupants?

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Like everything else, intent matters. So, maybe.

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