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Is there any benefit to admitting to my counselor that I’m considering leaving the firm because the work & travel are ruining my mental health? Even if on another project without travel, I’d quit...

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Depends on how tight you are with your counselor. Also, I wouldn’t expect things to change - what you suggested is the reality of this career and why turnover is so high

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What do you expect them to do for you exactly? My first boss told me don’t complain without an actionable, realistic solution.

Not wanting to travel at all likely means that solution is moving to another group that pays less and has worse career trajectory (I’m guessing as that’s true for Accenture in most cases). You can’t expect to stay in a job that likely asked you to commit to 80-100% travel and not travel.

So again be realistic and proactive and if the realistic options aren’t appealing, find another job that is.

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Don’t tell counselor, find another job, move on with your life. Happy SO, happy life. As an silver haired old guy, figure out what you want to do then go after it.

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In a past life I was in the same predicament and I shared those sentiments with my counselor at the time. Absolutely nothing changed and in fact I was made to feel as if I owed the firm something so I should stick it out. I eventually left that firm. So yes say something to make sure you give them a chance to fix it but realize it will most likely be you making the fix.

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I was in a similar situation as SM1 where I was made to feel stupid, not dedicated, and unable to do the because I voiced the concern. (btw I offered solutions like 2 week on and 1 week off, or full travel during certain phases of work, or asked not to have to travel every sunday) 4 of my peers are on antidepressants and most of us are in virtual therapy. We are supposed to have a no retaliation policy, but are literally told we are dumb and should be replaced. Logically, I thought the advice to "voice it and let them try to fix it" made sense, but it made life more miserable. And I was working such long hours with our travel schedule, I was never away from my team during working hours to take interviews. So the advice....dont say anything and move on to a healthy situation.

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I wouldn’t suggest it. Perhaps you can go to your counselor with a request to help change the situation. Let him/her know that you’d like to make a change and do remote work and/or do work in a different industry/team. Perhaps chose one with a greater work/life balance. Or (not sure if EY does this), ask to go on a tour of duty with different groups (usually lower demands) or take an internal role for a bit. If anything, these changes can make your life a little bit easier as you search for a new job. Leadership doesn’t want to hear problems, they want to hear your suggestions for solutions.

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Sounds like youve already decided to quit. Just get the next job offer and quit. Dont tell anyone until the offers in hand and dont cause drama out the door just say a better offer came along and you decided to take it

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I’m holding back because someone on my project told me she did this and she still ended up quitting since they did not change anything for her, not even roll her off. My SO is just getting frustrated I’m not telling anyone when it’s clearly affecting me negatively. I would also hate to start a new project in the middle of job searching and interviewing, so I’m keeping quiet.

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Just quit and move on and don’t look back

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Big 4 is no democracy, it’s a pyramid scheme ..take care of yourself

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D1 is spot on ...this is the nature of the job. This is simple rule , you stick in consulting as much as you can and then leave. 90% of the ppl will leave..10% will stay and become partners

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I have a very different opinion. If you like the work but not the travel, speak with your counselor and area leader and look at options. If you are valued/ top performer/ have supporters, they will try to accommodate you. Give it a try at least. I would not say that I want to quit, just ask for accommodations for some time and take it from there. If you are in a bigger city there should be local work. Or switch industry to align with what clients are in your area (relevant if you exit as well).

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@OP - I faced the same issue. I asked for a little flexibility because my wife and I had a new born and I wanted to help her out as much as I could. I was told I can’t have flexibility at work. During year year, my manger made up stuff about me which impacted my rating/promotion (until this incident I was all set to get promoted). I’m looking for the correct opportunity to leave the project. I like what I’m doing. Just don’t like the people I’m doing with.

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Confused - work and travel, or just work? Your premise says it’s just the work itself since even without the travel you’d quit... in which case, seems easy

OP, What do you expect to happen or change?

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Is there a Slalom office in your city? Lots of local market model firms are springing up these days. That might be a good option for you.

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