Is there any value to telling your coach / counselor that you recently declined a job offer elsewhere?

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There’s no reason to do that. Career limiting move

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Puts you on the fast track for the promotion to client.

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Love Seniors weighing in on this with their limited experience and saying it's a CLM. 🤣

OP - There isn't enough detail in your question to really answer it. So many factors weigh in. Are you actively looking? What is your relationship with your coach/counselor? How is culture at your Firm and in particular in your office /within your offering group? How did offer come about? What is your goal of telling the details? Etc. Etc. Etc.

Over the decade plus of my career I've taken interviews and had offers. Each time I've shared with a mentor/counselor or others. I've been encouraged to understand what is out there and supported in my decisions. Open communication has been core to my teams and people I work for and with. They wanted to understand my goals to support those and also make sure they were aware of things that weren't working (i.e. what would drive me to leave) so that changes could be made if possible to improve.

With the limited info of this being something you turned down. Unless you are unhappy with how things are going, at this point it probably doesn't make sense to make a deal out of it.

Also, for clarity, not once when I've interviewed or been offered a job has it been a CLM, put me on chopping block, or in any way slowed my path. My story isn't unique as I have numerous others that are in same boat as me with this experience.

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It was with a Big 4 acc and made me realize that I don’t have many other options of places to go in terms of where I want to go with my career. I felt like the Big 4 position would require a lot of hours and I have no desire to go to industry.

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I've mentioned getting recruiting calls/emails that I wasn't interested in. "BigTechCo emailed me the other day. I bet the money is nice, but the hours are even worse than B4 and the culture is worse, so I gave it a pass. At least I know I'm desirable."

However, saying that you've declined an offer says that you went to the trouble of interviewing AND you couldn't be enticed away.

The comparison to telling your spouse about potentially cheating is apt. There's a difference between "A really attractive person tried to flirt with me, so that's a nice ego boost" and "I met someone at a hotel, but came home instead of getting into bed with them."

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I would shut up about it unless it’s a potential independence issue.

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If it’s someone you have a good relationship with and trust, then it’s good to be transparent. But what kind value are you looking for? For your counselor to tell leadership you almost left so they should be wary you’re gonna leave? It just doesn’t work and also then this isn’t someone you trust. So, what kind of value are you even thinking you’re creating? Maybe it’s not a bad idea, but what’s the positive result?

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Yeah after reading through I concluded it’s not a good idea to say anything

As someone who is a coach and whose coachee told them they were considering other options (grad school and jobs) I would advise against it. The entire time before my coachee left, unconsciously, like it or not, it was in the back of my mind.

I would recommend being honest in your questions or concerns about pay, upward mobility, mobility into other groups, etc., but if you’re partially out the door, it’s hard to come back in, and we all know it, and then it just becomes a matter of time.

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Tell your partner not coach

It was for more $$ and obviously more hours.

Will you say to your couple/spouse that you almost cheat?

A good analogy?? Really? It's a terrible one. You aren't married to your firm. Your firm should want you to be doing your best and if that's not with them then it should be as a client (eventually). PA isn't for everyone and that's okay. Small firm to B4, should be understandable given doors it opens and differences in work done.

I feel like it could hurt your relationship with them and the firm. Turnover inherently happens in public accounting, and letting them know that you’re considering leaving could potentially result in them saying that you’re replaceable and to go ahead and leave

Don’t do that. That essentially tells them you were looking to leave lol, even if you were just doing it passively.

Every now and then, talking with other firms is a valuable exercise to go through - to understand your market value, what you are or are not missing out on and to learn about the skills that would make you even more marketable. I would not share this experience with your career coach or partner at this time though. It is an experience you will find valuable when you become a career coach or mentor. As you see your coachee or others struggle in this same situation, you will have the empathy and wisdom to walk them through it. Being transparent and sharing this experience and why you stayed at Crowe will help someone else someday. I am glad you are staying!

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