Is this common? My girlfriend just does whatever I want or tell her to do strongly prefers it that way. If I ask her what she wants to do that weekend or where she wants to eat or if she wants to come over, it’s literally always “whatever you want”

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If you want her to change or give some input tell her. If you already did, ask her to write down a list of things she want to do and go off the list. But I’m the same way with my friends and partner. If it were up to me, I’d stay in the house 😂😂

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I am in a relationship like that- except it’s my husband who does whatever I say. It can get exhausting making all of the decisions, he’s slowly starting to help out and change but I can’t tell it’s his default.

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This was my last relationship and I just didnt get it 😐

Aside from being normal or not, more important it is if it bothers you? We all have strengths, weaknesses, preferences and it’s okay to have someone make decisions on SOME matters and the other person on others (eg, I suck at directions so I follow my bf blindly and let him decide the route when we travel, but I am a better cook so he defers to me when buying groceries and coming up with ideas for what to cook).

But if she has no opinions on anything whatsoever, literally not even what she wants to do over the weekend, she sounds like a dud to me. Like what would she do without you? Does she have no hobbies, friends, fun things she likes doing regardless of what you do? Does it mean you guys always spend all your time together? That can be fine and fun in the beginning of the relationship, but gets boring and tiresome down the road.

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I also want to note that it is a very positive and enthusiastic whatever you want and the girl is very in love with me but she wants me to decide everything lol

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Can you ask her to guess what you have planned? Her guesses can give away what she wants to do!

Often my SO and I will just get in the car and drive when we don’t have a plan and it works well for us.

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My hubby on occasion has thought this. Then I point out to him the three ideas I had that either failed or he shot down. Sometimes it's your perspective that you always do/she always agrees if it's your idea that wins in the end.

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My boyfriend does this. Normally I don't mind but sometimes it drives me nuts. I think it's common in a relationship to have a leader (or alpha) and a follower. I'm not sure how successful they dynamic would be otherwise.

I've tried talking to him about it. I've even told him that we are going to set aside a day to do whatever he wants to do in an effort to empower him to be more proactive. Since then he'll step up when I tell him to, but nothing has really changed much

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OP - do u come across as stubborn? My ex was a very stubborn guy and it got to a point where I d rather he take decisions than get irked with me

I often try to get my boyfriend to pick where/what to eat. He is a foodie and loves to cook and go to unique restaurants. So, I often feel like if I try to suggest something, it won’t be up to par with what he would want. This isn’t an issue for me — he has great taste in dining! I just trust him to make those choices and know that whatever I come up with might not be what he would want. That may be how your gf feels too.

Tell her to build you a log cabin and her tune will definitely change 😂

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