It is astonish the kind of relationship advice that most people post here. Aside from one or other trying to be empathetic most people post stuff like “yeah you should just break up/divorce”. I’m always flabbergasted by the lack of respect for third party feelings and history. Here’s my advice to literally everyone in those threads. Go to therapy. Because you are either here seeking validation or dumping your own resentments into others.

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Going to therapy is also a default response in this bowl. Just an FYI. 😬

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Fair enough. I can respect that.

Why are you so mad though? Perhaps something you can explore in therapy?

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I’m not mad. Concerned tho. What I explore in therapy is I’m usually very concerned with other people pains and problems and this affects me a lot. And this where this is coming from. I’m actually concerned for the boyfriends, girlfriends and wives and husband that has no idea that their SO are talking about their privacy here and getting this kind of validation. While they should be working on whatever issues they have.

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I do think people should break up more often than what happens in real life. For the people posting here, the writing seems to be on the wall, they will break up one day anyways, and it is more fair to break up for the person on the other side as well. I think in real life, family and friends don't give this advice because of societal pressure to couple and they're indirectly invested in the relationship if they're close with the SO.

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Came here to say this. For some reason friends and family are always urging you to stay in whatever shittyass relationship you’re in. If so many people weren’t with the wrong person, maybe there’d be more people with the right person (ya know, cuz they wouldn’t be stuck in said shittyass relationship).

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Maybe we should attend group therapy together

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If you are paying I’m in.

This is common in the Women in Consulting bowl as well. Someone will post an issue and usually most responses are, red flag, drop him, you can do better, etc. Of course you shouldn’t stay in an unhealthy partnership. But human relationships are nuanced and complex and conflict is inevitable. From there it’s the commitment and awareness of each party. Really not simple.

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While therapy and break up are the default choices, occasionally we see the correct answer which is nearly always ‘talk to your SO about it’

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I appreciate this comment and agree

-the guy who asked advice on an open relationship in this confession bowl yesterday

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Good morning OP🧐

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A lot of the time the questions are obviously red flags. Why else would you ask anonymously instead of someone who knows your situation a bit more?

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I had relationship struggles until I pursued strong introspection to figure out my values and what I truly want out of a partner. Additionally, using psychedelics served as a guide to provide more clarity and definitiveness to me. I found that I was able to work through the issues in that relationship and am still with that person, only growing happier as our time together lengthens. I think these are important steps that people may neglect when it comes to relationships, and people also receive pressure from society that a relationship must look and feel a certain way.

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