It is taking everything out of me to not quit or lash out at my manager right now. Please calm me down 😭

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Go out for a nice walk outside and put on your favourite song! You got this! Don’t let anyone crush you!

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So serene!! I ended up calling one of my friends from my last job who gets it. Thank goodness for those friends. And you ladies of course.

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Girl you got this! Pretend you’re a robot or their head is a pumpkin.

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Love this 🎃

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Nah, go on mute and clap your hands and READ your manager all about themselves. Use a Cardi B or Meg thee Stallion voice if it helps. Also the typical condescending empathy of saying out loud ‘oh you poor little thing...Is everything ok at home’ still on mute of course. Don’t forget to phone a friend and have a vent session in between or even on meetings.

For a healthier release, YouTube a 5 min boxing video and follow along thinking about all the stupid you have to deal with and then follow that up with forced laughing for a solid 30 seconds minimum on how ridiculous this all is while living through a pandemic.

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Definitely phoned a friend & got (most) of my frustration out. I’m logging off early today cause my brain needs it. Thanks for the laugh & the tips tho!’

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Take a deep breathe and maybe go for a walk! Make yourself some tea. Light a candle. Remember this is only temporary!! Whatever is going on with your manager is not the end all be all. Also, feelings are temporary and your feelings to lash out will go away too :)

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Very true!! Ugh it’s so hard to remember things are just temporary sometimes. But thank you!! I am in control 💪🏽

While on a week, think of five nice things about your manager and remember why they are probably going through the ringer with this project too. Remind yourself of at least three great things about you and your life separate from work.

In the worst phases of the worst projects (and I do 18 month tech implementation...) I find it really really helps to remind myself that this is just one part of who I am. I hug my partner, my cat, bake some cookies, go for a run, etc.

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Omg stop 🥺 they’re both so cute!!!

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Google baby goats in pajamas or uncommon animal friends - always cheers me up

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