It makes me unreasonably angry when I spend my time explaining everything I know about something for a coworker (about one of THEIR tasks, nonetheless, not mine) and the response is either to set up a meeting or to call me. 🤦 Like I’ve told you everything I know about it. Cool, we can call and I’ll read to you what I wrote, but I’ve typed it all for you, not sure what good you think a call is gonna do. I literally know nothing more than what I already wrote and now you’re hindering my work.
Chief
Not sure I’m following. You free for a quick chat?
Chief
Think I got it now but I’m just gonna put a brief call on the calendar for tomorrow morning to touch base. Thanks!
Maybe share what you know and end the email with, “if you have further questions, I recommend reaching out to ___, since this is their area of expertise.”
Ideal! I love this idea, I will absolutely do that.
Many thanks for the perspectives shared here. Sounds like I probably need to not overextend myself and if I’m not the one who knows about something, just say that and redirect them and move on! I suppose there’s a difference between enabling someone to be lazy and being helpful, so I’ll bear that in mind moving forward.
Pro
If it’s not your problem to solve, don’t try so hard in solving them. Be a team player of course, but if they care enough, they would reach out and ask you for help.
Rising Star
Ever thought that you might not be good at explaining something to your coworker?
Oh I’m sure I’m not, in this case. I’m not the person they should be asking, it’s not my area.
Rising Star
Send an email explaining stuff, and end it saying to setup time with you or clarify any open questions.
Enthusiast
If they shouldn’t have asked you, direct them to a more appropriate person. I will do this when I start getting questions from people I am not responsible for helping - will shoot a message to warn the appropriate person im sending someone their way!
Rising Star
Does this happen often? (Excessively frustrated for minor obstacles = low frustration tolerance)
That's a sign of ADHD.
https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/adhd-emotions-knock-off-our-feet/#:~:text=Most%20people%20with%20ADHD%20have,a%20feeling%2C%20making%20it%20unbearable.