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I’ve struggled with so many heavy infatuations before and a friend recommended this. Hope it helps anyone else out there who’s gone through this or may be going through this right now.
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I feel the same. I’m a mess. Everyone in my life has met their person and is completely happy with them and I’m nowhere close to that. I literally cry everytime I’m alone and feel more depressed than I’ve ever felt. Especially when people in my life are so good to me I feel like I don’t deserve that because I can’t find the same love in someone I date. I’ve struggling for awhile. I also feel way too embarrassed to tell anyone in real life how I really feel because I made sure my life looks good on outside
GT1 haven’t thought about it in awhile in the way you put it. Everyone’s going through their own battles whether they’re public about them or not. Thanks for putting it that way
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Can you change up your atmosphere? Try to go for a 30 min walk, go on a hike, or go to the movies. Changing up your scenery can sometimes make a difference
I feel the same 🤍
I'm in the same boat - I think we need small and big goals we work towards that we don't care about others having it together because we are too busy working on us
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You only hear of the happy stories because people are proud to flaunt their happiness and successes. You’re definitely not alone, so please don’t use others’ situations as a benchmark. Comparing only makes you feel worse, and should only be done in small doses anyway.
Taking baby steps to feeling better is important, and you’re right there by working with a therapist. Similarly, you can also take baby steps with changing your immediate environment. Maybe clean one room at once, or set reminders to take out the trash. Small actions will amount to real change and enhance your quality of life, even if you’re still struggling with depression.
You are comparing your life’s raw backstage with other’s life highlights. You only see people’s shiny achievements but not all the months and years of painful process and effort they went through. Don’t worry, you are not alone in feeling that everyone else seems to have everything together while you don’t. I have also been feeling like that and was always comparing with others. There is a saying that life becomes miserable once you start comparing with others, because there will always be someone better than you. However, everyone is fighting their own battles and insecurities. Focusing internally on your unique goals and passions and your growth can help you live a more enjoyable life. And please give credit to how far you have come and what you have accomplished!
Can always try a new therapist. I’ve had many and skill/ match quality is everything. I’ve had stellar people who helped me on deep issues and I’ve had glib idiots who are basically reading web MD tips about depression to me while half listening (thanks, BetterHelp!).
Try doing something completely different. Do something you’d never dream of doing today. Do a dance class on YouTube. Pick a random place to eat and try it. Walk around your neighborhood and say high to the dogs. If you have the money, try to maybe take a trip to nature. Seeing Yosemite falls was life changing for me- I had always been very cynical and when I saw that, I was just so overwhelmed by how amazing it was that I couldn’t help but be excited.
You can start a new chapter in your life whenever you want- whatever you have or haven’t done before, it’s like a first draft a writer throws out- it wasn’t a waste, it was there to show you what you should write instead.
Distracting myself with world, travel, sports, working out definitely helps. Feeling a bit more like myself today. Hoping this trend continues. I’m so ready for a fresh and positivity start