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It’s my birthday tomorrow so I have been calling my friends to come to the party this weekend (I limited to >10 ppl due to Covid). I was planning to have a lunch drinks/pizza party since I wanted to keep it casual and outdoors, but I have been awestruck because most of them asked about whether they need to chip in for the party food/drinks or if there are hot guys before they said no. I guess I was naive to think they will all say they will come just because it’s my birthday.. kinda sad :(

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OP i am so sorry! my bday was this past weekend and i had an equally uncomfortable and shitty response from friends (to the point i like almost spent it alone) and feeling very similar to you right now i promise youre not alone! DM me if you want :)

So did you actually ask them to pitch in or BYOB or something to that effect that made them say no? What is the age range of this group ? I can see this with some younger people but at a certain point people don’t really care. Do you think maybe some are concerned about Covid ?

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I'm a hot guy and available tomorrow. HBD!

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Lmao same SA1. A1, hiiiii :)

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Lol damn straight up asked about money and potential sex. Savage friends you got.

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It honestly is devastating tbh because there’s no excuse for me to say that they are still my friends.

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You need better friends

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Yeah... I feel like crap :(

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I’d like to thank everyone for all of your kind comments! Bday feels way better ❤️

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Happy Birthday once again! I hope you had a blast.

You may not want to hear this, but depending on how old you are, it may be time to shed your friends. You realize as you get older that you’re gonna outgrow your friends - actually many of them. Doesn’t have to be dramatic, some people I’m just not that close to anymore. The friends that I’ve made when I’ve gotten older have stuck around bc we’re over this kind of bullshit.

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Ugh I’m sorry OP 😓

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Sorry OP, happy early bday 😓

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Its my birthday too but guess i will be alone 😓

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Nope, no frnds around & family is away

Whoa your friends aren’t nice

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Let’s all get lit this weekend. I haven’t been drinking in a month.

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Happy b-day OP! Plenty of better people to be friends with in NY. You don't have to drop these friends completely, but maybe spend less time with them until they grow up a little. Sounds like they are pretty selfish and immature

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Why not just make a reservation and have a dinner party?

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^ yes! Seems like OP wanted a party prior so....

Person. Just save up for next year. Have your bday on crete

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Wtf! They suck. There’s no excuse for that kind of selfishness. And assuming you aren’t the same way, now’s a great time to move on.

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Do you mean < ?

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Yup you’re right! Virtual hug back

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I'll be your friend! 😊

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OP happy early birthday!! It’s actually a good thing that you see their true colors now, after all, who needs friends like that right?

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Hi op, it’s my birthday tomorrow too and I don’t really have any plans since I am not a birthday person. Lmk if you wanna get a drink or something

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Happy birthday OP! Fck those friends, you deserve better. Birthdays are a once a year thing, if they can’t even make it to that, they’re not your real friends. DM me, I can be your new friend :)

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