I've been avoiding breaking up with someone (I've been dating off and on for a year) for the past few weeks because I can't decide the best way to do it. We're not compatible long-term. He's not seeing anyone else and I've told him I'm seeing other people but he's starting to have relationship expectations for me since we reconnected a few months ago. Any tips for having the conversation? I'd prefer to do it via text but I know people say it's not appropriate and it should be over the phone.

What sort doesn’t smile when a random 2 year old in a park with big smile says hi! Twice! As a parent, I judge the kind.

Failed my last exam (Far) with a 72, lost BEC as a result, and got dumped by my bf (bc he wants to try again with his ex).

Its been a great week. I am truly about to lose it.

need vent - I'm having real anxiety, my mom/boss owns the family law firm that she built from the ground up, older sister helped (literally runs the office, payroll, and paralegal). My sister has been out for health reasons (at one point we thought cancer).
Our last paralegal was acting petty because she hasn't gotten raise, and mom hasn't given her raise because she acts petty and doesn't do what she's told all the time. Today she quit. I'm afraid my mom has unrealistic expectations

When did you realize that you may have a problem (physically or mentally)? Haven’t left my house in 72 hours because of being burned out/anxiety and turning down plans with friends.... (cont)

Do people have relationship check-ins with significant others? How soon is too soon to mention the future? (Context: 31F, dating 5 months exclusively, BF likely moving for job in 8 months).

My partner tells me to share my anxieties. I do share some, but I tell him I cannot possibly share all. There are many, and I don’t want to subject him to the inner turmoil I suffer daily.

I live with my little family in the bay area for 10 years. With the skyrocketing housing costs to buy a house I'm searching fb posts #goodbyesanfrancisco #movingtocharlotte #movingtonorthcarolina etc. with hopes to find the courage to move and pull our kids from the only community they know and love. We both earn well but still it's not enough. House hunting sucks here. $900k- $1mil gets you a two bedroom 1 bathroom or if you are lucky a 3 bedroom fixer upper. Feeling so defeated and sad.

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Is it normal to want to commit to someone but not their family? Like if it were just us in this world everything would be perfect wouldn’t hesitate to propose but when I think about how different our families/backgrounds are, I just don’t see how we can make this work? Plus there’s a language barrier there as well with them being foreigners, on top of religious differences and so much more? Anyone else can relate? I don’t know if love alone is enough

Anyone women lawyers here interested in a local get together? New to the area & looking to meet friends, which is hard enough as a busy attorney, and got even harder with pandemic /WFH life. I brought this up in the women lawyers bowl and there were several 🐠🐠 in the Bay area looking to connect!

I have been here for over a decade, moved several times and had to start from scratch with my network. Recently I am feeling disconnected from friends and romantic interests who don’t share a similar experience to mine ex—family within an hour distance, living in the same city for their entire life that they have many friends local. While I signed up for this, I have an urge to connect more with people who have similar experiences to mine. Curious if anyone else experienced this and what worked…

Anyone ever felt limited by their beliefs because of the household you feel up in? I grew up lower class and it’s like I’m struggling to grow even when I have more resources for myself now

Never gave up on my hubby when we were dating - just divorcing the firm for the health of our relationship 😂

Work is asking me to be in office 1x a week next year. Puppy will be 4 months old and right now I take him out to potty 13x a day. What should I do when I have to work? Work is 20m away from apartment and I can definitely come back at lunch for an hour, but should I just put him in daycare for the day? How do people with kids handle this??

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

Help!! My bestfriend is doing two months abroad and was trying to fly into turkey when they told her she couldn't because her passport expired within three months.

She went to the US Embassay in Athens knowing she had a month left of traveling, and gave her an emergency passport and punched holes in her exsisting one. Now no country will let her in with her emergency passport.

Can her mom get her a passport in the US and ship it to her? Is there anyway around this?

Thank you!!

Would it be weird to send my ex a goodbye letter in the mail? He leaves for a military deployment soon for almost 1 year, and I generally care / miss him.

My boyfriend fake proposed to me last night at dinner with our friends and it was the most embarrassed and uncomfortable I’ve ever been. Please help me understand what was going through his to justify that action.

Soo how do ppl make new friends as adults? Lol

Looking for advice: current senior associate at a mid-size firm and was just offered a role as "counsel" in big law. Salary for the new position is not on the lockstep scale (and, in fact, significantly below where I would fall if I was placed on the lockstep scale). Take it or no?

Any tips or tutorials of how to jump from Adobe XD to Figma? Never used Figma before but I will need to use it in my new job. I have only used Adobe XD and I am a little bit afraid of my performance the first months 😮‍💨

What is Pinnacle award ? And How will that benefit me ??

QQ: Highest paying industries/companies in OC/San Diego? Aware of semi-conductor and life sciences. What else? Focused mostly on Corp/BU HQs that give some geo stability vs satellite office biz ops.

How long does it take to get money out of your 401k for the purpose of purchasing a home? Thanks!

Any pharma companies communicate to their employees that they must get vaccinated to return to work?

Do we have employee stock purchase plan in IBM? If yes please share the process

I recently accepted an offer (company X) for Aug 1. Com X (big company) is a media planning role (same title I have now: Senior associate), but in a different media type & pays $10K more ($70K). However, I had also applied to PM roles and had no luck with getting any callbacks until recently.

Com Y, is small (<100 employees) but pays $80K+. Would it be weird to take an offer and then leave (if I get the com y job)?

Com X job said I could be sup/man given time, earning $80K+, advice?

How much do SwE/devs with 3YOE (fullstack/cloud) make in tech on average?

Anyone with RFE on I140 - after your lawyer submitted the requested evidence, how long did you hear back from USCIS? Mine is at Nebraska center.

I can seem to find a Pfizer booster anywhere in the city, anyone know where I might find one

Hello, does anyone work as an auto underwriter for insurance? I recently got accepted for an internal job position and was offered $50k. I’m currently a claim processor making $20/hour so the offer is more than what i’m making but is low in comparison to the average salary for an auto underwriter in AZ (which is around $58k). I believe because the company knows how much i’m making they lowballed me. Any tips on how to navigate the salary negotiation and can u share ur salary ?

Looking to transition from an electrical engineer (wide range of experience in low and medium voltage systems) to FPGA or embedded system engineer. While I really do enjoy the design aspect of power systems, I've always leaned more towards the software side of EE and I like working closely with hardware. I have experience through college and personal projects, but I'm not sure how going from multiple years of power system design to a more hardware/low level design will pan out.

Leather jacket recommendations (bombers / biker jackets) ?

Just went on a first date with a gentleman. Such a lovely time...great conversation. Until he walked me to my car. Stuck his tongue down my throat and looking to cop a feel multiple times. I’m now sure I’m going to die alone and having major itch to contact ex. 😥

Is there more up to date data on acceptance rates after receiving an interview invite? It was interesting to see that type of data aggregated by Wayne Atwell but it’s from 2015

Turning 30 tomorrow! Looking forward to a better decade.

At 30, if you’re living under your parent’s roof but you’re supporting them, do you consider them to be living with you? Or are you still telling others that you live with them?

Just got out of a 5 yr long term relationship. I’m just realizing how awesome the 30+ dating pool is. Everyone is established, got their shits together, no time for games, and we are treating each other like adults. I love my 30s !

Anyone wanna chat with me tonight, if you're bored. M/33 😄😉

Hello fellow singles! Just wanted to say hi to the community & start building my ‘brand’ as PwC has taught me. Turning 30 soon (a few months away), thought of getting a head start atleast on this phase in my life.

M here, Indian, currently based out of east coast. Love reading, movies, adventure sports & long road trips (more recently gyming too).

Looking to connect with the fellow tribe here. Hit me up if I sound like someone you would be interested in connecting with.

New here. 35M NYC metro area.

Any 30+ plus female fish in nyc want to get dinner this weekend

I recently asked everyone’s age filters on dating apps and there were some mentions of fear of baggage and that’s why you don’t date older than X. What baggage are you afraid of? Ex spouses? Kids from prior relationships? What is it?

If there’s one thing I’ve invested in during this quarantine, it’s been working out! It’s a shame I can’t flaunt this hard work anywhere but my mirror 😂

I’m a Pro now, baby!

Any fishes up and looking to get to know each other? 32, male, straight, 6’4”, athletic, etc.
I am a pretty good cook and have found a recent love for cooking Asian food in woks. I dream of a mountain house with gas stoves, and a sun room. Though would accept a condo for more sleep these days haha

Has anyone else quit the apps and starting meeting people IRL? It's so much better imo