I’ve been dating a guy for couple weeks now. He asks me out every weekend but only text me one or two days before the date and after the date. So basically he doesn’t text me at all for 2-3 days a week. I know he’s prob interested enough to ask me out but is this action reasonable? Or is he just bored and want to have a person to hangout with?

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To be honest, in my experience, it sounds like he’s not super into you. When I started dating my SO, he would text me every 1-2 days and would ask me out several days beforehand (eg ask on Sunday for a Thursday date.) I would have been put off if he had asked for a Thursday date only a day before. Before my SO, I was casually seeing a guy that would only text me around the weekends/every 4 days, and it was so annoying.

If you continue to get lukewarm vibes both from how the dates go/how he texts, I would bring it up, saying that you’re not quite feeling the passion/connection you’re looking for (knowing that will prob end things)

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Agree with this. When there’s momentum, you want to chat about anything

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This does seem kind of off to me. How’s the intimacy?

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Couple of weeks is too little to figure out a trend. That said, do you text him or call him to say hi? How are the dates? Are there awkward pauses? It could be that he is so busy with work that he does not have time?

Tbh, those dates went ok but just ok, still feel awk during conversations and sometimes it was boring. I don’t think he’s too busy. He does reply when I text him but if I don’t, he doesn’t text me anything until days before date.

I think you’re reading into it too much. You’ve only been dating a few weeks. He probably thinks texting you every single day would be annoying and make him look clingy.

If he’s still taking you on dates he’s definitely still into you.

He’s not that into you. Checking other options and ending up on you a couple days before the weekend. If you haven’t slept with him (or if you have and it was good), he’s just holding out to see if he can get that.

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