I’ve been dating my current girlfriend for around 3 months and I love being with her. The craziest thing is that I began thinking about my ex more when we started getting serious even though I was certain I was over my ex before deciding to get into another relationship. Is this normal?

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What kind of thoughts are you having about your ex?

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Every relationship should feel different in my opinion. You shouldn’t compare too much between the two of them because it really isn’t healthy for your current relationship. When your mind starts to go there, I suggest trying to shift your focus on why you’re with your current partner and what you like/value about the relationship (and her).

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I'm thinking you might be wondering if somewhere deep down you actually want to be with your ex and/or there may be something amiss with your current relationship. Confront those thoughts now and consider objectively if they are true or not so that you can get some resolution. If you have a sinking feeling, put your goggles on and dive down. And don't be afraid of what you might find!

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I think this is very normal if it’s the last time you’ve been this serious. It happens to me all the time with my ex husband. I would say just be honest with yourself about what it means. For me sometimes it’s cuz I have traumatic memories that just get triggered. Sometimes it’s just a memory because couple -y things will trigger the same memory channels … your brain is strange sometimes. But just ask yourself honest questions and if there’s information there be curious.

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