I’ve been going through a tough breakup that left me a bit devastated. I’m dealing with it but the problem is I’m having a really hard time focussing on work, while right now it’s crunch time on an understaffed project. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice on how I can have a better focus while working through this? I can’t mess this up due to this breakup…

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OP, I just told my managing partner that I had something happen with my SO and it’s really impacted me, and that I can keep running the project, but I do need a little slack with respect to self care time. He was so kind, and said to do whatever I needed. I know not everyone is comfortable with this sort of vulnerability, but given the nature of the work we do and its unforgiving quality when real life happens, I find this approach has been most effective for me.

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I did the same earlier this week actually, I confided in my managing partner. He was also very understanding, told me to cut myself some slack and take all the time I needed. That definitely helped, great advice indeed. It’s just that this project was something I fought for and it’s important to me to do well despite my personal situation. Feels like it’s the only thing I can control at the moment

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Maybe allot yourself a little extra time in the morning to get centered and do something you like, then promise yourself a break midday and in the evening, even if it’s just 20 minutes. It’ll give you something to push towards and also a period of time where you can feel what you’re feeling without it interrupting work. When I had a similar situation, it felt like that doom and gloom was hanging over me constantly unless I stopped, took inventory of what was important to me that morning, then committed to keeping good face until my next break, and repeated.

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Also, I’m sorry OP. Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world. Sending really warm wishes your way. It will get better soon and you will grow as a result of it. ❤️

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Thank you, appreciate it!

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