I’ve been meeting people who point out the color of my skin too many times for me not to notice. For context: im middle eastern and my skin is white. I’ve met middle eastern men who love how white I am (I was very uncomfortable with that) and also met western men who want me to be tanner (also very uncomfortable). I don’t understand what the attention on my skin color is about… does anyone understand this? It’s hard not letting this bother me

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I'm part Middle Eastern and usually go from fairly light skinned in the winter to dark tan during the summer.

I find some people's obsession over color to be sad and weird. I know WHY they obsess over it (cultural value associated with skin color with roots in implied wealth and colonialism in some places). However, its still strange to me.

There are so many other arbitrary features that are worth noticing instead.

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Aah

I would definitely be bothered if I were you. Start hanging out w/ people in creative industries. You’ll experience less ignorance (and your life will be generally a lot more fun; )

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Hmm, I might try that!

I’m sorry to hear this.

My cousins are middle eastern but generally pass for white.

I’m white but have gotten questions about my olive-colored complexion. Sometimes it’s said I’m Hispanic. Generally Italian. Neither are true!

No one, though. Has ever told me they want me to be one way or another. Perhaps is that I’m
A cisgender white male.

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No kidding, right.

I had a man I went on a date with tell me “you should really get a tan” multiple times. And another tell me “I love how white you are” right before kissing me

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I’m blind so I’m your perfect guy! I kid I kid……sorry you’re dealing with it OP

As a fair skinned Middle Eastern man myself, I can't say I've experienced this. Never really had anyone comment. Maybe twice in my life I've had some anti-semitism directed at me / my nose, which is funny cause I'm not even Jewish

Sorry you're experiencing this, though

@BA1: you'd experience it more if you weren't fair skinned. I suspect it may not be as prevalent in Ashkenazi Jews (unless it's towards Sephardic or "Falasha" Jews).

Colorism is a sad fact in most Asian/Middle Eastern/some African countries.

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Who are these people and where are you meeting them?

Corporate events, clubs, coffee shops, apps…

Actual white skin is kind of rare so maybe that’s why they’re commenting? It doesn’t make it appropriate though.

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