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Ppm depression is heavily exacerbated by stress. Lack of support creates stress. New moms in many countries stay in bed the first 6 weeks and have family support, followed by family support for the first 6 months till mom is back to herself, and often family nearby the first few years.
No surprise that ppmd rates are sky high in this country where we leave moms to fend for themselves after 48 hours and send dad's back to work in 1-8 weeks.
I had the most supportive husband. Very involved and would always offer to do diaper changes, feedings, cleaning bottles/pump parts, etc. Zero complaints about him as a partner or father.
I still had postpartum depression and it was awful.
I imagine not having the support and help of my spouse would have been a thousand times more difficult.
Same here… depression kicks many times even if you have all the odds in your favour…
That was true for me. I was completely exhausted and my son was still waking up several times per night at that age. I was miserable and in a very dark place mentally. We didn’t have family around to help so I felt like everything fell on my shoulders- feedings, appointments, prepping food (not to mention working full time). On top of PPD, I’d often let my resentment build and “blow up” at my partner. Hindsight, I should’ve taken the time to communicate my struggles with him and shown him ways to help me out. The first few months are tough. I suggest communicating if he’s willing to listen. If he isn’t, tell him to cough up $ for help. Wishing you the best of luck. Message me if you ever need to chat. Hugs ❤️ it gets better
Thank you! Yes I finally talked to my OB after a few months and was able to convince my partner that the problem was serious. Trying to reflect now on if the PPD was caused by lack of support or what. Working on getting better daily.
I'm a single mom with full hands-on support from family and close friends. I struggled with PPA severely for about 4 months. I think it was due to the amount of support and unsolicited advice/ the opinions of others. For example, my mom or aunt would tell me to rest and heal and as a result I'd spend little to no time with my little one. I got a therapist and have been working through since.
I had it with my first, decided to avoid it with my second so was medicated. Those PPD days were some dark days that I didn’t care to revisit. I think it can happen to anyone regardless of their situation. So many hormones and a lot of stress. I remember talking to my friend and she talked about how relaxing her maternity leave was and my experience was totally the opposite. However, I am a natural stressball. Hope you figure out a way to manage it. It makes things a lot harder than they need to be.
I had post partum before. No relatives and friends helping due to covid. My close family members are living in another country. MIL was helping but we had conflicts about how I shd take care of my child. Husband was defending her and to the point she had to leave. After she left, I was doing better and even less work for me. I realized it was because I was not getting the right support and conflicts with MIL.