I’ve been trying to look into anxiety group therapy or support groups in the Northern NJ/NYC area, but searching hasn’t come up with anything except for all female support groups. Are there any guys (or girls) on here that would be interested in starting one together? Maybe meet once a week on Zoom after work hours? Maybe we could find a therapist or a psych graduate student looking for extra cash that we could pool some money together for to lead discussions and whatnot? Just spitballing here.

Several years ago a gay male acquaintance said he didn't date Black guys. It made me bristle but I was not surprised. Now he's married to one. I feel in a way vindicated every time I see his loving social media posts with his Black husband of like 5 years or so now.

How did he get over his apparent aversion to Black men enough to go and marry one? Where would he be if he hadn't had a change of heart?

I wish there were a tactful way to remind him he said that and watch as he eats his words...

Love my boyfriend but embarrassed by him when he gets drunk... he always seems to be the drunkest person at happy hour when we go out w friends/starts slurring/eyes aren’t as focused. cant tell if I’m the one that’s being restrictive — does anyone else feel this way w their partner?

Would you marry someone who can’t have kids?

Do any retail workers out there still get severe anxiety when you see someone without a mask?

Someone told me that if you make a list of the things you wish they’d said, you can think of what your values are in a relationship and the communication you’d want from a future partner. What are some of yours? Here are mine:

You have a beautiful soul.
I was wrong.
You are amazing.
I’m ready to go to therapy, and I scheduled us an appointment.
I wish I never left, not once.
You mean the world to me.
I will help you with anything you want.
I will always be there for you when you need me.

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Have you used or ever heard someone use oral progesterone during IVF? I did injections in my first round which failed, but the practice in my home country uses oral progesterone a lot. I looked up but couldn’t find much info on why not using the oral route in the US.. going to ask my doctor next week but just wondering if anyone knows—- getting daily shots is a little too much.. thank you!

We have motion sensor lights in my office and the sensor is far from my desk. Consequently, if I'm on a long WebEx, the lights go out and it's embarrassing. The building won't change the sensor. Anyone find a solution for this (aside from standing up and moving, which would be very awkward)? I can't rearrange my office.

Best way to improve mental math rapidly? I have 8 days

Help!
Planning on moving to London from New York for with 9mo baby in January. Would love some advice on the following topics:
1) Areas to look for affordable housing in a good area - potentially 2bed within the 1500 range?
2) would you recommend owning a car or would public transport be sufficient?
3) How does child care work (nanny/daycare)?
4) Is there an option to hire help for regular cooking, household chores, etc? If yes, what are the prices charged?
5) how does pay work with a transfer?

36 and my body cannot handle alcohol anymore!

How did you cope with post-grad depression? I feel like my life has stalled a bit.

Has anyone gone into 5th month of pregnancy with the baby growing under the belly button? Looks more like a fatty pouch than a baby. Everyone else already has bumps starting from right under the boobs.

How do I ship my mom in law back? Almost ruining our marriage and loosing the affection for my wife and kids already

Currently looking for an outside sales position in Massachusetts.

I have 7 years experience in sales. But I am relocating from North Carolina to Massachusetts.

Would anyone happen to know any great companies hiring?

A majority of my experience is in the logistics and logistics technology side of sales. I’ve been working remotely doing over the phone/ zoom demo sales. But I would love the opportunity to service my clients in person!

How do you replenish electrolytes while fasting? Looking for ideas.

Have you had thoughts of quitting the job during pregnancy? My tolerance of low efficiency and meaningless grind is getting so low that it’s a constant thought in my mind. Does this get better later in the pregnancy?

Has anyone had a nurse state the assumed sex at 12 week ultrasound? The nurse is fairly sure it's a boy, and I'm wondering how accurate her guess is based on a close look of the genitals. Confirmation won't happen until 20 week appt, too far away!

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and just started medication treatment, and I didn’t realize something was missing this entire time. My brain finally feels so calm!!

Studying for the bar, and my first 2 years of practice exacerbated my symptoms so badly. I couldn’t keep up with the long hours at work! I feel like I have a fighting chance now!

Can someone refer me urgent
15YOE in IT Operation, Immediate Joining..

How long does it take in Accenture to send offer letter once salary discussion is done???

Hi Fishes, need some info
1. What is the payband for C10 in MRM team?
2. What is the current hybrid model looking like?
3. What is the expected bonus % payout for C10?

My husband and I are in 2nd month of trying to get pregnant. Been on BC on and off for the last 15 years. Taking prenatal vitamins, watching ovulation, watching diet, any other suggestions?

Hi Fishes,
I have 1.8 yrs Exp and working in the Big data domain and have a few offers please help to decide on the comparatively better option based on salary, Work-life Balance, security, and Carrer Growth.

EY GDS: CTC 12 ( 11.20 Fixed )
Publicis Sapient: 16 CTC ( 14.5 LPA FIXED )
Neudesic (IBM) 16 CTC ( 14.5 FIXED + WFH Remote Complete )
PubMatic: 22.70 CTC + 2 lakhs Joining Bonus ( 16 fixed LPA + Other benefits, stocks, etc )

It will be very helpful if you can suggest with some reason.

Looking for experienced auditors in the Tampa area. Private companies, manufacturing, construction, professional services, healthcare, nonprofit, government, benefit plans, all industries!

Can anyone advise on new Sr. Consultant, Deal advisory, valuations salary in downtown Toronto office?

@siemens
2 weeks annual shutdown leaves are deducted from employee's paid leaves or those are additional free leaves given

About to start my first PM job! Any tips to be prepared and ramp up quickly? Books to read, courses to take, etc.. any tips are appreciated! Currently in ops consulting. No tech background.

I have an offer with 12 LPA as a SA -QA1 as OMS QA (Functional) ; I don't have much experience in automation, mostly I have worked on functional/buisness part of testing ; can anyone let me know what is the future for a tester in PS ? will the resources gets projects , or not with this kind of profile

Hi there! I interview for a position with a planned Parenthood this week for a role as Special Events Manager to oversee their fundraising department. Because most of my work and experience has been in freelance. I’m having a hard time figuring out what my work experience translates to in a Salary position. Therefore, I wonder what my base pay should be. Does anyone have any experience in the role?

Looking for an entry level remote tech position. Honestly not picky, current TC is 111k anything close to that would be appreciated.

Do we get company sponsored table chair expenses? How much?

“Let’s postpone this meeting for two weeks. I’ve been tested positive for COVID”

We’re all working remotely and I’ve faced this situation 6 times as it is. Y’all wild but stay safe!!!

How much did you spend on client lunches/dinners last year? I’m at $3,600.

Is anyone able to give me the Marriott Family or/and friends discount paper? 🤗

Has anyone taken Cymbalta for depression / anxiety? Do you recommend it? I’m so scared of meds!! WhAt side effects to be aware of (short and long term)

Any tips for being more patient, in general?

My therapist just told me I'm depressed..do you ever feel like they tell you things you hear a lot or could have figured out on your own? Like take care of yourself, it's ok to feel such and such, etc. I'm still newer to therapy so wondering if that's the common experience? Do you ever have moments where you're like wow that actually is eye opening and I wouldn't have gotten that from reading self help books and websites etc?

I was wondering if anyone in this group is or knows about groups to support attorneys who are/have been suspended and how to handle it with life. Frankly the state bar isn't a good resource and it's starting to impact my career in not practicing the law. I've been working for a non attorney job in my company for years and was recently told my suspension means I'd never get it. Boy that was a blow that triggered depression and anxiety, still there as it's been less than a year week.

Been seeing a therapist for a while now and feeling worse than ever. Been having suicidal thoughts. Not sure what to do.

Can anyone else not sleep right now? So stressed and exhausted with everything but can’t fall asleep

I am so tired of it all. I’ve barely eaten in the last 3 days and had to take a painkiller last night to fall asleep. I’m so overworked and I constantly feel like a piece of sh*t. I don’t even have the energy to move right now and feel like I will faint any minute.

having vivid violent dreams I can remember which has never happened. Pretty depressed also for reasons. Struggling to get out of bed let alone exercise. Feel inadequate for lacking mental strength

Is it possible to say "no" to a request, especially an urgent request, because you need to sleep? Sleep is like the #1 thing that keeps me from being suicidal but I feel like I can't say that...

Why does my therapist make me feel worse almost every time after therapy? Is this for real ?

For those of you in consulting/finance/high intensity jobs, what medication do you use for anxiety? Currently using a beta blocker as I’m afraid anything more will cause cognitive impacts.

I have adhd and take vyvanse daily. It helps a lot with work but I’m scared of how addictive it can be. Has anyone been through the same?

Has anyone dealt with a therapist not being able to see you (virtually) while you are temporarily located in another state? I’m struggling with coordinating my work and when I’ll be in my home state with my sessions because apparently I can only be seen when I’m physically in my home state. Are there different types of lisences I should look for that would allow someone to treat me while traveling? It’s all very confusing…

Boy do I love to compare myself to other people and then spend a weekend spiraling in self hatred. It’s just *chef’s kiss*

Anyone here have severe lower back pain due to depression or other mental stressors?
Had many X-rays, MRIs, etc and they find anything.
A specialist told me it’s most likely psychological.
How do you manage?

Do you share your struggles of depression and/or anxiety with your parents/family? Especially when not living with them.
Should I be? It's a lot of effort to sound ... happy or normal on the phone. But don't want to make them worry either.

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

Fish fam! Need some help. I am a 23 year old male and I know that I am really wise beyond my years. I am just not having fun any more with what an average 20 something year thinks is fun. I want CONT

How long should it take a company to check references? It's been 2weeks since I've provided this info, I'm anxious everyday. Assume I did not get the position & move on? Losing hope- really need this.

I can’t get over how meaningless my life is. I feel stuck in a dark tunnel with no light at the end. I don’t know what I’m doing in life. It’s overwhelming and makes me cry over every little thing. Is it too much to ask for me to just be happy in life? I’m 26 but I feel like this is all life has to offer.