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I’ve cried literally on every project I’ve been on. I feel like something is wrong with me that I can’t handle the pressure and stress from working in consulting. For 5 years, I’ve been trying to find new work, and I’m still not good enough to land a new job.

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I’ve cried about every job I have ever had at some point. Crying is one of the ways that I express stress or frustration. It’s not just about sadness. Some people get angry and yell. Some people over eat. Some people drink too much or do drugs. I cry. Maybe that’s your coping mechanism too.

The key is to make sure to do it in private. I have learned over time to channel that energy to times when I am alone. I let it all out and feel better afterwards.

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Your body is telling you that it's too much stress for you, that's not something wrong with you, it's just you.

Consulting isn't the end all be all. Please don't judge your character or persona based off of one unnecessarily intense career path.

You're so much more important than all of this.

It’s hard to get into consulting. You are capable of many jobs but you have to be open to relocation. If you are not willing to move or are picky on salary then you are stuck where you are.

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