I’ve gotta tell y’all, the shame of being an unemployed father is extreme.

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Nope, don’t beat yourself up. This is an absolutely insane time. I can’t understand where you are because I am a woman without children. But I know a lot of people out of jobs. My dad worked non stop until he retired at 57. There was not a vacation he didn’t get called away from. He was in Europe or Australia for 30% of my childhood. I love him, he’s amazing. But if you can be there with your kids that’s worth so much. I remember all the times my dad got to do stuff with us. Not here to tell you how to feel. But speaking as the kid of a guy who worked all the time, I would be glad to have my dad home and that’s all I would have remembered.

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I hear you. I got let go a couple months ago. It’s left me and my family in a very difficult position. I still question why.

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Don’t give up. It will get better, it’s gonna be a slow process but it will get better.

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Depending how old your kids are the effects on them can last a lifetime. My dad lost his job when I was 12 then wasn't able to find anything stable ever since. He became my cautionary tale rather than respecting him I worked hard to never be like him.

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The question that OP proposed opened up some deep emotional wounds for me. I empathize with his situation and shared a personal story of my father and my fears as a father. If that gets me banned so be it. I'll never stop being honest with myself and speak my truth.

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