I’ve had three miscarriages and most recently a molar pregnancy (Jan 2021) that was conceived via IUI. Have had all the labs and blood work done and show no signs of anything wrong. My partner and I have sortof stopped trying subconsciously because of the emotional turmoil we’ve been through. We are exhausted and traumatized.

I’m almost 38. Is it time to just…give up and move on?

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I *think* kids is a goal of ours still, but hard to say for sure. I do think that I’ll regret/resent not having them if we don’t. But as time passed I know it’ll only get more difficult/risky.

Thank you, and all the best to you!

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I am so sorry for your losses. Did you have the miscarried tissue tested?

My understanding is that even if you and your partner are not carriers of anything they can test for (which is what they can tell from testing you) your embryos still can have chromosomal abnormalities that can only be discovered by testing the embryo. The percentage of all embryos that have chromosomal abnormalities (and then are typically miscarried) is a lot higher than I ever realized, and it goes up with age. If you do IVF, the embryos can be tested for these chromosomal abnormalities before they are implanted, so IVF may be able to make a difference for you because only viable embryos would be implanted.

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OP I almost had a molar pregnancy (super long miscarriage hanging out). Dm me if you want someone to cry or talk to. I'm here to listen and sending virtual hug to you

I had a molar too. There's nothing wrong with you. It's random and bad luck.

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