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I’ve never been unintelligent, but does anyone else feel manipulated to think so by leadership? It almost feels like a sick game how leadership talks down to AEs...

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Sorry to hear. Yes bad leaders make you feel insecure. It’s them, it’s not you. Find an ally who’s more senior to you and you can trust, and ask them for advice. They will feel honored/flattered. Anyone loves giving advice, especially to the up and coming. We’ve all been there and it warms our hearts. Like, “Hey John/Susan, I love this company and I am learning so much. I’m thankful to be in such good hands and i would love to learn to start building my leadership skills. Do you have any advice for ______?” / “Have you ever been in a situation where____? Would love to get your insights.” And finish with “Thank you, that’s really helpful.” Then apply their feedback and keep them posted on the (positive) progress. Stay humble and thankful. Karma.

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In my experience if you see them attempting to pull your strings, you've already won. Annoying. Regressive. But they've revealed their game and you can use it to your advantage.💪 And NOT pull that shit when you are in charge!

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Thank you!! I really appreciate the thoughts, truly encouraging.

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Not in my current org, but definitely in the past! It’s gaslighting, honestly. I try to tell my people “You’re smart and know what you know, don’t let people make you feel otherwise just because you don’t know THAT thing.”

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