I’ve noticed a trend lately - every time I’m talking 1:1 to a friend, whether in person or on FT, they always bring up how they wished so and so other friend was there too/how much they miss other friend/“wow let’s add her to this call too”. I know it’s not a huge deal but can’t help but feel like no one wants to talk to just...me. :(

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It’s not a recent trend for me, but it does happen often! Literally as far back as middle school until now 😂

I don’t necessarily feel super rejected, but it does make me feel kinda down. And tbh it’s also annoying. As in, why can’t you just enjoy my company as it is? Am I not good enough or something?

Over time I just learned to not take it personally by reframing my thinking: that wanting the other person over has nothing to do with me not being enough. Maybe it’s out of habit bc we usually hang out in a group, or not wanting to leave the other person out even in spirit. In other words, making it less about ME.

Keep repeating that self talk to yourself until you internalize it. That’s helped me a lot! (Though the slight annoyance is still there for me lol)

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Are your friends the spontaneous type? For a while I was doing this to my SO on the weekends like oh let’s call so and so to come over bc they came up in conversation. I didn’t even realize it could be hurtful until she pointed it out

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I don’t think so - I genuinely just feel like I’m not enough or not fun enough company :/

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