I’ve noticed, many of us desis (me included) are quite aggressive/ bashful with comments on many of the topics here on this desi bowl. Any topic quickly escalates into a mini- argument. Wonder (contd)

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OP - quick heads-up. I don't think bashful means what you think it means..

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Um no, same everywhere . Again with this stereotyping. Have you seen the politics bowl ? Reddit ?

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I think this is the only place where desis speak. In real life and at work most are very timid so this is a great place to channel out that built up frustration

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D1- I think you saw through my social experiment

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EY1 - you can’t hide everything under stereotyping.. we need to learn to take “No” as an answer.. we need to learn and accept “ others have right to express as well and if they have different opinion that doesn’t mean they are wrong”... we need to accept “everyone has been through different journey and experience which drives the opinion or learning and need to at least listen and not react to everything that everyone says”...

OP - I agree with you and this is what I believe...we all (desi millennials) are victim of ruthlessness, individualism, personal biases based sh** we read and we hear and we are becoming less sensitive about surrounding people, culture (good one we used to have at one point)...as we tend to accept different cultures we get in to the grey area and struggle to differentiate between what’s best, what’s appropriate and what’s unacceptable. In this process we try to dump our shallow knowledge on eachother

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Because desis just like to compete and win on everything. ESP in India there is so much competition from getting into colleges etc that it’s always about survival of the fittest so that mindset has stuck on here and that used to be rewarded but now it’s different. It also appears that from This bowl that desi ppl cant seem to acknowledge the difference in perspective and thoughts because growing up most ppl never dealt with this vast difference in opinion as ppl tend to stick to ppl from same cities same schools same things. One way to try to broaden thought process would be to try to listen and acknowledge and learn. It’s all psychological.

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Wonder why this could be the case. Are we told as kids we need to win everything- every discussion, every competition etc or something else drives this frustration?

Good post OP. I think may be it’s our ego? We are supposedly the “best” lot doing good in our career and , culturally speaking, can’t take failures. Imho

Fragile ego

Yup concur with the comments here. Insecure, ego

EY3- thanks, just looked it up. ESL for life

Did you want this thread to turn into a mini- argument as well OP? Lol

Go to similar forums of Americans, no one speaks less than f***

I truly think using the word fuck alone is not aggressive. I haven’t noticed it either being used, but may be I just haven’t come across

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