I’ve realized that when I go to my step family’s vacation home I am miserable the whole time. There is always so much gossip, drama, elitism unhealthy food and drink (I have an eating disorder FY) and I just really don’t like who I am when I’m there and how it makes me feels. I only go out of a sense obligation because my mom wants me to go. I really think I need to draw a boundary and stop going for my own well-being. Any advice on how to do this? Thank you

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How far is it? Can you go for an afternoon instead of an entire weekend?

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3 hours of travel round trip

Agreed with the other responses and maybe limit your time there. Also maybe bring your own food that you can cook?

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Sounds like you already know what to do! Be firm about your choice but know that avoiding future stays with them may cause future conflict. Ultimately you’ve got to do what is best for you and hopefully they can understand your position.

This life is too short to do things you don’t want to do because of feeling obligated. I understand doing things we don’t want to do for necessity. You are worthy to state what you want. You are worthy to do what you want. You don’t need to please others. Enjoy this short life and live it they way you want to.

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