I’ve recently outgrown my college group of friends and have never made a separate group of friends outside of my college network. How have others overcome this while traveling?

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I am in the same boat as OP and also an immigrant. Work friends are very transactional and many leave the firm. I also cannot relate to people who think drinking is socializing. I find it very artificial. I went from having many friends to almost none in last decade in the US. Add to it travel.

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How have you outgrown them?

Different interests. I’ve never loved drinking so while they continued while the party lifestyle everyday after work with happy hours then clubbing on the weekends, I gradually saw them less since I didn’t want to keep up with those activities

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Join groups ( climbing club, biking club, church, etc) where you live.

Make work friends

If you are or become a parent, you will become friends with your kids friends parents

It’s extremely hard when you travel— I will be honest. But maybe volunteer work or church groups are a great way to meet people.

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