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Joined daily stand up, project team didn’t realize I was in the call and started gossiping about me that they wanted to get rid of me. How would you react? Call them out or observe?

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Observe, record on your phone using voice memos. Save it for if you decide to go to HR

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In VA only one party has to know it’s being recorded...that one party can be you.

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I am sure with help of people here and your own intelligence you will have a plan and a course of action. But all I want to say, sorry you had to go through this. I can imagine how those couple of seconds/ minute may have felt like hours and the turmoil it may have caused to you and the courage you must have shown to continue to be in that call talking to those people. I am sorry OP. This was so mean :( I have gone through bullying at work and lived through that for years without letting my inner hurt come to surface. Hope you have the strength and courage and resilience always.

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I would listen and try to see if it’s performance related or just gossip. If it’s performance, you should email those people and ask them what exactly are the areas they believe you are not performing well in. If it’s gossip, let it go. You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but make sure you’re documenting and noting your accomplishments. Just in case.

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Correct advice ^ details of the “gossip” and conversation (performance vs. true gossip) matter.

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Sis you are NOT the first person they’ve done this to.

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Not performance related. Clash of agenda’s. Her lead gave another GEO unit target than my lead. Already escalated this within Accenture. The gossiping coming from a level 5 is too much I think. They were also gossiping about other colleagues who slept with who kind of gossip

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Sounds like HS drama. Wow.

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That must have been really awful to witness. I would raise with your MD directly in a 1:1. I left Accenture after seeing leadership behaviour that I didn’t aspire to. Questioning what “leadership” meant to me and what behaviours I expect to see from my team mates and seniors led me to really identify what I value. Ultimately I found my values didn’t align with these people. They are not as “truly human” as they claim. You probably feel pretty awful now, but try and use it as an opportunity to reflect on what you value :) hope you’re doing ok!

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I had the same experience at ACN, ages ago. The guys would talk about their weekly jaunts to strip clubs. My manager at the time received *performance review* feedback that she needed to go out for drinks and be more social - she was an introvert who didn’t drink. Total frat boy culture. When I finally left for a different firm, the Senior Exec I worked for told everyone I was “dead to him.” Funny enough, he’s since joined that firm himself.

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I hate people sometimes smh. I would send out an email to all that were on that call with some "helpful" WFH phone etiquette tips and include some subtle references to a few of the things they said, but my petty levels are beyond where they should be...

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Depends on the why. Was what they said about your personality or work or both? Is there truth in it? Perhaps this is a wake up call. On a project last year there was a SM who we all hated and talked about all the time. Nice guy but incompetent as hell. He needed to go. I told our project lead who did little to nothing about it. That kind of feedback needs to be taken to heart.

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Thanks for being honest with this person. Although it’s awful and it hurts, I think you can take the power back by addressing it in a constructive way that will benefit you on this project and/or in your career. Crappy things happen, you let it define you for good or for bad. Going into a FBI mode and recording and going to HR is not helpful (if it has truth). If it is purely malicious or discriminatory in any way, then that’s another story. Best of luck, and keep on !!

Still can’t believe this. Do you know how many people were on the call?

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I would have said...oh heyyy. I'm here. I mean all the platforms ID who has dialed in.

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