Just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I am staying with my mom but what do I do? What do people do when they break up with someone they lived with and they make a teacher salary? Rent is one of my two paychecks a month. How do I afford that? I don’t have friends I can ask to live with me. Do I live with my ex?

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Stay with mom as long as you can. Make new connections where you can. Don’t stay with someone who isn’t worthy of you because of rent money. It will be challenging but learning to be yourself will be worth it.

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No to the ex. Stay with mom until you can find a roommate, maybe a colleague?

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I was a landlady, so got cut rent. I also tutored in the afternoons and evenings, then went to a medical office after hours to do filing and paperwork...
Then we had 9 ft of snow and had to get a back hoe to shovel the place out ($3000). I moved to Vegas that summer and the rent is actually manageable on a teacher's salary.
There are a bunch of other places like that if you're up for a move.

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Whatever you do, DO NOT go back to your ex just for financial reasons. I don't know your relationship with your mom, but I would guess she's happy to have you and I'd stay as long as I could to get back on my feet and a state of independence. I moved back home after living on my own in DC after a break up and I lived at home for 3 months and saved quite a lot.

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No to the ex. I'm divorced. One of my two paychecks is the mortgage, so I can totally relate. Not the best situation, but so far better than the alternative.

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My hometown has a very low cost of living and always needs good teachers. Not a lot to do though.

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Do NOT go back to your ex. There was a reason for the break up. Your mom will have you as long as you need it. Like others say, enjoy your new beginnings. Sometimes the Lord puts us on the “ road less travelled.” That road is better for us.

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No, I wouldn't go back to the ex. Staying with your mom sounds like a good idea, at least for now until you can be independent, financially. Be thankful you have somewhere to go and you have a career. You might have to look into a summer job or even a second job. You can do this!! Stay positive!!

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No to the ex. Start putting out feelers for room mates.

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Set yourself up for what you want in life, it’s not the end of life. The idea of going back to live with your mom is good idea but not the best. Being independent might be the best option, weight your options. Becoming a minimalist. There are some great websites if you want to live with a roommate. I will definitely say no to the cohabitation with the ex, unless if he is willing to marry you because six years are not six days. Work on yourself, excise, do something challenging or adventurous, do things that you always want to accomplish and of course I will definitely introduce you with God’s word the Bible. I wish you the best in your decision making.

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I am a teacher living alone on my my salary and... yeah. It is incredibly challenging

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