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“Hey, someone old me there’s a rumor about us out there. Super uncool. If you have anything to do with it, shut it down. Thanks. Bye.”
Not passive,
Not aggressive.
Factual.
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I would go straight to HR. Bypass the asshole. He’s disgusting and this could follow your career. Don’t give him an opportunity to cover his tracks. No more assholes 2020.
I hate this. It happened to me when I was younger and I felt so helpless. It’s all hearsay and gossip so you can’t prove it. Who did he tell exactly? I would suggest you don’t do anything like what CW1 said as it sounds too lighthearted. Be strong. Something straight and to the point like “Xxx told me they heard you and I hooked up, which is news to me. I wonder what kind of jerk would start a rumor like that?”
Also, is the person who told you trustworthy? Remember that people are absolute snakes in this business, and pretty much in general. Especially if you make someone feel threatened in some way, they will say any damn thing. I wish I’d known how awful people can be. I was so naive.
I would move forward with care.
I think you can approach them about it if you want to. It’s your career! I would go about in a way that is more so “a concern for the both of you.” Like, “Hey AAE, Ive been hearing some silly/funny gossip about us. I just wanted to let you know in case you hear anything! I know I’m embarrassed by this since we’re both professionals, and it can put me in a difficult position, especially as a freelancer, and I’d imagine you feel the same!”
Agree with PM. DO NOT place the blame on yourself. You shouldn’t do anything but go straight to HR if you’re serious about this. Do not ruin your case by saying what C1 suggested. I say this with love as an HR professional.
I would speak to your direct supervisor. If you go directly to the AAE they might twist the story or try to beat you to HR, etc. worst case scenario.
Apologies on behalf of that AAE from another AAE... That’s incredibly underhanded and disrespectful, and even I know that type of behavior simply can’t stand. I agree with the incredibly well-articulated responses above (you owe it to yourself to raise this and protect your “brand” at the agency)... but still, sorry this is the BS you’re dealing with today
Stand up for yourself. Report it to HR this is unacceptable
Own it. Tell the office he was terrible in bed, had a small appendage and screamed out his own mothers name during coitus, then cried when it was over
Coitus 🤣
I would consider this harassment for sure. Report it.
That's terrible and freelancers should be protected from harassment too (even though it's often harder for us, freelancers union did a survey on this last year). I would either talk to the AAE directly or talk to the recruiter you worked with, whichever you feel more comfortable with.
I'm not sure if it's just in NYC, but they just events, have a coworking space (in the normal times), and generally advocate for freelancer rights!! https://www.freelancersunion.org/
I would report it to both HR and your supervisor. It’s inappropriate and wrong. You have rights even if you’re just a freelancer.
NYC has very strict harassment laws. If the person who told you they heard the rumor from the AAE first hand can go with you to HR that would be helpful — and document EVERYTHING. HR is there to protect the company and you need to tell HR about your experience with this person along with the peep or peeps who heard it first hand from the AAE...it’s called a hostile work environment. Don’t quote me on this but you may want to ask a friend who is a lawyer.