Just found out one of my best friends from college died from cancer. We haven't kept in touch but I saw a mutual friend occasionally. I am so shocked I'm not sure how to react right now.

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So sorry to hear that OP

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React with sadness, mourn. I've had lots of distant friends die in the service, some close ones too. Remember them.

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Had that happen at 35 and now again at 50. A good way to react is to keep in touch with your friends because it's going to happen again.

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While very unfortunate I've sometimes found that these opportunities force us to reflect and really think about who is in our life, who we spend time with and who we care deeply about. So sorry for your loss, OP, and please remember is ok to mourn in any way that works for you- tears, anger, etc

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Sorry OP! 🙏

So sorry to hear that. Think of the good times you each had together. Your friend is undoubtedly in a better place now. For all of us, our material clock will stop, but our spiritual clock never stops. It only truly starts when we pass from the material to the spiritual world.

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I have had this happen too. It is a shock@and you will move through it. Keep your memories and try to donate forward in their honor. It's not perfect but I had a tree planted at the college we attended, donated money to research and visited her family to share memories.

Thanks for being a real douche, P2. You think I don't regret it enough?? You think I'm happy that I let so much time pass?? Fuck off man.

Feel what you feel when you feel it -- don't pretend to be ok or think you can't feel a certain way because you lost touch. Be honest and patient with yourself. I'm sorry for your loss, OP!

Remember that nothing is eternal. Remember the good days. And then remember your other living friends and evaluate if you're still a friend to them. Fix things if you've let more go. Remember that you're not eternal either. What other things do you NOT want to regret?

Don't kill the messenger OP - maybe it's time to change you behavior and reconnect with those you care about.

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