Just got out of an hour long mansplaining session with two slightly senior men from my team. How do you all pivot when this starts happening? This kind of stuff makes it so much harder to do my job.

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Table the unrelated questions, pivot (“let’s jump to abc, I’d like to get more info from you on xyz before we leave”), and keep asking the questions different ways - or even the same question, same way if it’s that egregious - until they do answer. (“Thanks for that. We do have the definition, but I’m looking to dive deeper into x.” <restate question>)

In general, I make sure to start all meetings with a very clear objective and only present what is relevant/what I would like input on - if someone sees a slide, they’re going to want to read it. Anything else goes in the appendix. Go herd those cats! 👊🏼

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This is such an amazing response. Thank you!

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What did they mansplain?

They spent the first thirty minutes of a working session trying to pick holes in my approach which I had already gone over with and gained alignment on from our boss. Once I finally pivoted us to the point of the conversation, they kept responding to questions for detail on specific items with the most basic definitions of certain common components which I have a background in and strong understanding of rather than answering the actual question.

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