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I want to give you a hug! There will always be ups and downs in life. You have a lot of time to set your career path the way you want it but baby’s childhood is going to fly by so much faster. Be proud of yourself for being a great mom even if you missed something like utilization or a year’s worth of raise, which you’ll forget about soon. Side note, sounds like there were lots of complaints about new comps in general anyway! So you didn’t miss much :)
Stay strong mama!
Sending you love. Do you have a trusted mentor you could talk to? It sounds like you should take a step back and think about what you want from the job. Then you can make a concrete ask to Deloitte and push them to follow through. Is there a new moms support group you can join? I have a network of new parents who have been totally invaluable.
I’m sorry OP. I had a very similar year and didn’t get a promotion I felt like I deserved and then doubted if I really deserved it. My male peers who I felt were around the same performance all got promoted. I went between being angry at the firm and being angry at myself. It sucks and it feels totally unfair so i get what you’re going through OP. It took some time but I managed to regroup and think about what I want from my career and my life. We want a second baby and if this happened already after the first, I’m questioning if this firm is the right fit for me, despite all their talk of balance and encouraging women. Seems like it’s just talk. I’m starting to explore options at boutique firms with less travel and maybe even more interesting work. I guess my advice is to channel the anger or whatever you’re feeling and do what’s right for you. Not what your company wants you to do.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am so sorry you are going through this, it’s never easy to take a hit. I’m trying all I can to not feel miserable inside and stay present both at home and at work. I am sure time heals, and in my case I can’t wait to fast forward a couple of years and know life is great again :)
While OP you are being overtly critical of yourself , maybe you should be objective about it and move on and focus on the bright-side. A job is a job, and companies have metrics and payouts, some years it just doesnt work out- the choice between work and home in such high burn careers is real , but not a reason tk quit, just try again next year :) chin up!
Did they specify why the comp was 0/0? Did you get low ratings, or are you at top of salary band?
Definitely not at top of salary band, low performance (metrics related).
Disappointed both in myself and the firm. I have so many questions, but voice inside says you slacked off last year, so you deserve this. While I know I am capable of much more, just don’t believe in myself anymore. Feels like the typical “got to make a career/family choice”. Not sure what I should do to feel like myself again.
Same here! Good to know it’s hard for others as well!
What?! That should not happen with the 0/0. You need to have a comp discussion with a ppmd. Did your counselor tell your story well? What level are you? I stopped traveling too after my first mat leave and my utilization was barely there but I did a bunch of things like proposals, firm initiatives, made new contacts locally for projects, and worked on some local projects. I feel like your story at year end did not get told correctly.
What else did you do while in the bench, OP? Do you have a record of trying to be staffed? Unfortunately, it is hard when you have travel restrictions on staffing, which translates into utilization. And the story then needs to be around what you did to support firm strategy when you weren’t supporting revenue. And I guess it would also depend on what your utilization was and level. Lastly, agree with everyone else on this thread. It’s okay to have a year where you don’t hit everything in the work category bc you have a new category that has come into the picture. Don’t take this too hard!!!
I had a very similar story... tbh I still am angry about it but I’m giving myself a year to get that promotion before cordially ask them to go F themselves. As we all know as parents: one year goes by in a flash! Hang in there and take this opportunity to think about your goals and next steps
Hm. Smart. Thanks, I think I will do the same.
As others have said - you did not slack! It is such a hard adjustment to balance work and a new baby so please cut yourself some slack. I can’t speak to how the utilization/comp works at Deloitte, but my advice is to find a working mom there who you see as a role model of the balance you’re looking for. And trust that you will find your stride. Also, if your priorities or professional desires have changed, there’s nothing wrong with that either! Good luck!
sending you hugs!!
Not fair for becoming a parent to penalize you.
So so tough. It just speaks to the fact that you need good mentors and counselors to tell your story. I’m heading for maternity in November and have felt the drop off of engagement with partners even though they have all assured me they are positioning me for the next step. So hard to feel like you know who to trust. Will keep you in thoughts and prayers
Whoa! Getting nothing when part of the year you were out on maternity? Horrible! Just horrible. I went through a similar situation when I came back from maternity. But I at least received a measly raise and bonus. I was also passed up for promotion, but I used that as my way of taking control of my career. Within months I transferred to a new practice, completely different line of service. Within four months they promoted me, gave me a significant raise and bonus, and now I’m on my way to another promotion in a few months, after only 2 years. I get feeling down. You should. But use this as a means to elevate your career and you.