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Just had my yearly summative. Every year I am told what an amazing teacher I am. And every year I am told my personality needs work. All because I work instead of socialize during my plan time. My personality won't change -I am who I am- and people who actually take the time to understand me end up enjoying my company. Just wondering if these principals think they will convert a focused, goal-oriented introvert into an extrovert just to fit their idea of what an educator should be.

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After being awarded a gag award for "Not playing well with others" and comments from my academic dean during an evaluation, I felt the same way.
I dug down on it since I felt slightly offended.
After informal polling about myself, I discovered:
-zero professional negative remarks
-many negative remarks about personality from teachers that are not considered great teachers
-zero negative remarks about my personality from teachers I respect.

So, I am fine with that.

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While I understand your point I find myself asking what seems to be an obvious question...if we only give consideration to the opinions of those we respect/like/agree with then do we truly give consideration to other opinions at all??? Not in your shoes, but I've seen it in myself time to time.

This really speaks to me as I have always been this way too. Never go out to lunch with my team on Fridays, but I work hard through lunch and tutor during prep times.

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I'm the same way, students have teased me if I have any teacher friends because they notice I never leave my classroom, even for lunch. I don't eat lunch during work so I'm never in the teacher's lounge. Teaching is a career I am passionate about and I just don't want to be involved with any work politics. I'm not extroverted but I have enough friends outside of school that I already don't have enough time to hang out with, I don't have any desire to mingle and rub elbows with my co-workers. Your supervisor telling you to work on your personality for that reason sounds very odd and unprofessional, UNLESS they are seeing it differently than how you are describing it. Does your introversion affect your interactions with students at all? Are you approachable from a student's point of view?

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If that's the case, I would let my principal know exactly how I feel, that my decision to not socialize with my coworkers has no bearing on the quality of work, and that it's frustrating how it becomes a topic of discussion for every professional evaluation. I think setting a boundary will make it clear to him to back off with that in regards to future evaluations.

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Oh that hits the nail on the head with me as well! And after teaching 35 years, I have learned it is simply about the power of "CLICKS"

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cliques, not clicks

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What!?!? Your personality!?!? That feels like a slap in the face!!! Sorry that you have been told that. IF our administrators would say things like that I would definitely fall into that category. I have a few select teachers that I talk to a little more than others, but I'm definitely no social butterfly inside (or outside, for that matter. LOL) the school.

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My father gave me a piece of advice that has served me well and that I’ve embraced ever since it was bestowed upon me 50 years ago.

“What do you care what people think?”

If you live be by this rule, I guarantee you’ll live a much happier life!

( and have a lot more fun)

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Couple of possible things here. But it seems pretty obvious you are perfectly happy with your self image and you want others to see you the same way you see yourself. You aren’t likely to get anything here other than fuel for your confirmation bias, and maybe a little noise that you would ignore anyway. Cheers.

It is always good to get perspective on things. Confirmation says I am not alone and someone understands. And the "noise" is appreciated and allows me to see another side I may not have thought of. I am grateful for both as it allows me to move on in a better frame of mind.

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Is “personality” part of your annual evaluation? If not, ask for specific examples or ideas for improvement. Our rubric includes professional responsibilities such as: “participates in professional communities”, and “communication with stakeholders”. Our great teachers are encouraged to share ideas, knowledge and plan with their peers. We push our sum to be greater than the parts in this way. Perhaps that is the intention from your admin, but not communicated well.

We are a PLC school, so our rubric also includes those items. I present both at PD conferences and within classrooms as requested, so teachers know that I am available to share the knowledge and "expertise" I have. I appreciate the acknowledgement and suggestions from everyone. I choose to keep most of my personal relationships apart from my professional ones and I think that plays into the perception. The few times I allowed the lines to cross it didn't really end well.

🙄 Um I think we have the same principal. I’ve been dealing with this all year long. I encourage you to continue being great & don’t let anyone still your joy.

As a person whose personality has been known to rub people the wrong way I offer this...Personality does indeed change...if we take the time to work on those changes...just like anything else in life, we can choose to learn new skills and ways of doing things or not...it really is a choice and practice as they say makes perfect. Take careful stock of yourself, none of us are perfect, find a personality trait that could be improved and work on it, if you do I know you will thank yourself later.

Who has time to chit chat on plan periods? Wait, who gets plan periods? I cannot believe you are being evaluated on how popular you are with coworkers.... are we teachers or students?

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