Just moved to a new city. Haven’t had time to make friends because work is so crazy. Staying in on a Saturday night because I have so much proposal work but even if I didn’t, I don’t know anyone to hang with. Honestly, I’m feeling a deep existential panic that this is the life I’ve created for myself. And afraid even if I left consulting that I’ve forgotten how to do anything but work. Advice? Desperately hoping I’m not completely alone having felt this and that there’s a path out.

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I left and it has taken time to readjust to a normal lifestyle where it’s ok to have an appointment during the day, close your computer at noon on a Friday or just take a day off. I feel like some in consulting feel like if something isn’t done at this exact second someone will die. Honestly, no…we weren’t savings lives and what ever you send that was needed by COB will sit in an inbox for two weeks

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I hear ya! It’s so easy to get lost within work and forget so much of the rest of the world! I moved to a new city recently too and was so lonely. But I made it a point to do something every weekend and now I have a couple of friends to hang out with and it’s been so much fun!

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Learn to set boundaries.

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I feel the same! Have been in consulting since i graduated college. I’ve worked a lot even on weekends. About to leave consulting and i don’t know if know how to be normal, how to make friends, and be social anymore.

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I have a wife, four kids, and a dog. We’re in the process of buying a new house and getting existing house on the market.

Do you have any idea what I’d give to be you right now for just a few days or weeks?

If you had the option, wouldn’t you want less responsibility *without* the overworking problem?

Don’t let your life pass you by. Schedule things that would make your life feel more full and don’t change that for anyone or anything

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