Just needed a place to vent.

I really don’t know how I’m going to make it through this week of work. My partner and I got into a huge falling out and might be breaking up for good... right before our anniversary... The only things I feel right now is sadness and regret, wishing I was a better partner and making sure they felt heard and appreciated. Ahhhhhh please let this be a warning/lesson learned to those who may be unintentionally taking someone very special for granted.

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Make a grand gesture! It’s not a bandaid that will fix everything but I’ve felt how your SO felt and my SO made a grand gesture showing me they heard me, they cared, they promised to do better and they DID. We are still together years later and happy

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We talked and are considering staying together and working things out. They needed some space this week to gather their thoughts... by Friday things should be official and I’ll keep y’all updated. If things go south, I may need to use up some PTO days next week. The idea of us potentially staying together is what’s keeping me sane this week — but I am of course considering both outcomes.

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Can you try to work things out with your partner? Relationships are difficult but there is a resolution to almost everything every time...

Can you take some leave from work? You really don't need work on your plate whilst dealing with something this important, its impossible.

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