Just started a new job & my mental health is not ok. My life turned upside down randomly. I’m moving out in a few months & my parents are getting a divorce out of nowhere. My mom kicked my dad out & I see him occasionally but my mom goes psycho if my bro or I have contact with him. On top of that my mom is taking all of my dads money and has been TOXIC. I have been wfh and it’s a lot to deal with. I hide it well but have been coping with cbd & alcohol (cont in comments )

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Your employer probably has an employee resource program. Look into its mental health benefits first thing tomorrow. You need and deserve resources.

Is an AirBnB/short term rental possible? Staying with a friend for a week? Working at a coffee shop half the day? Splurging on a co-working space for the short term? Even taking a 45mn walk over lunch to not be in that toxic place?

You can help your sibling while not living there. Connect regularly. Be a safe place - figuratively and literally with your new place. Remind/confirm that the situation is screwed up, but that they gave you and it’s temporary. Do fun stuff together. Take them out to eat every Thursday. Have a silly code word for when you need to be their escape plan.

Good luck. I’m rooting for you.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through all of that. As a younger sibling myself, I don’t think you need to feel guilty for moving out so long as you check in with your younger brother regularly and let him know he can hang out at your place whenever he needs a break from all the toxicity at home. You will get through this. Finding a therapist to support you through it helps too.

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All great advice here! Even though you just started a new job and building your relationship with your manager, you should tell him/her that you’re going through some personal issues at home. You don’t need to go into detail w them if you don’t want to but they’ll most likely see a change in your behavior. You’re going through a lot and 100% don’t need to be perfectly on your game right now. Let your boss know and they’ll understand if you need a break from zoom or less meetings or if you’re quieter in general. Real life and taking care of ourselves comes first. There’s a reason why we’re told to put the airbag on ourselves first then help other people. You got this. Take it 1 day at a time and take time for yourself, even if that’s just to sit and cry or not cry.

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I obviously feel bad for my dad since my mom is basically leaving him dry and he had to pick up a second job to continue paying our mortgage plus finding an apartment to rent.
My mom definitely has been taking things hard and is not pleasant to be around. She is very toxic and that’s so distracting to my wfh status. I know my lease doesn’t start for a few more months but I just kind of want to leave ASAP. I also feel bad about my younger brother in this situation who I feel as if I’m abandoning by moving out. I mean when I signed the lease for my new job I had no idea my parents were going to divorce.
I know things are not going to go back to how they were ever lol and I have no more tears left to cry honestly but I don’t know how I can continue coping with these feelings and emotions without getting distracted at my new job. I have high performing anxiety so it’s not obvious at all to tell what I’m going through and most people probably think everything is perfect.

Is working from the office an option? Or some coworking space? I think it would be good to get away from the house if possible so you can focus on work during working hours. I also recommend therapy to sort through all your feelings. Best of luck

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