Just venting - officially 30 today and thought I’d be in a better place right now and not feeling stuck in my own life. Really hard to admit that

I was devastated when I realized I had to cut my twin sister and even my mom to some degree out of my life in order to have peace of mind. It makes me sad I feel better without their burdens. ☹️

How do you know that this is your person? Can you choose someone even though your ideals, philosophies, and lifestyle are very different or are you essentially settling?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

How practical is living as a single parent in Europe (scotland/Norway)?

I’m posting this here instead of my usual Big Law bowl because I’m guessing there are people here who will understand. I just need to vent. I am married to a wonderful man who has a young son. My husband is the kindest, most patient and supportive man I’ve ever met other than my dear late grandfather. He is saintly. But the chaos that surrounds him hurts me. I am the primary breadwinner and far out earn my husband and my stepson’s bio mom. I have always put pressure on myself to succeed (Cont.)

I've been avoiding breaking up with someone (I've been dating off and on for a year) for the past few weeks because I can't decide the best way to do it. We're not compatible long-term. He's not seeing anyone else and I've told him I'm seeing other people but he's starting to have relationship expectations for me since we reconnected a few months ago. Any tips for having the conversation? I'd prefer to do it via text but I know people say it's not appropriate and it should be over the phone.

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Moms with three kids and on a reduced schedule: What is your reduced schedule, and does it work for you? If not, what would be your ideal schedule? Just had my third and not sure how things will work... two was manageable, but three feels difficult right now

Feeling like my life is racing by being on the road 20 years, and saddens me that when I get home tonight my SO leaves on a business trip.

Which work-paper is "your baby"

Anyone else extreme ? Love the fit life and sometimes will do 2 a days and be ok with eating one meal, but other times will spend the day barely moving and eating on my sofa. Can’t escape fatty life

Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

Several years ago a gay male acquaintance said he didn't date Black guys. It made me bristle but I was not surprised. Now he's married to one. I feel in a way vindicated every time I see his loving social media posts with his Black husband of like 5 years or so now.

How did he get over his apparent aversion to Black men enough to go and marry one? Where would he be if he hadn't had a change of heart?

I wish there were a tactful way to remind him he said that and watch as he eats his words...

How old were you when you first took a blue pill/viagra? Currently 26 and a buddy doesn’t stop raving about it, tempted but feels too young to try?

Anyone find it difficult to balance family/friends when you get a chance to squeeze in a weekend at home? I feel like I'm losing touch with a lot of my friends, but still...family first, right?

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Welcome All.

We all can get help with Jobs Salary insights and suggestions.

This is basically to help young people stuck on toxic relationships or distracted from life.

This can be used to post confessions so that people can feel lighten up by sharing their story and not worry about privacy.

SO said he couldn’t receive letters during Ranger School, but finding info online that I can send. Any insight? Maybe he doesn’t want the distraction?

Big Law Dads: How much time do you usually take off when your wife has a baby? And do you actually get to take off, or do you just end up working from home half the time? My wife is due Mid-December, and I’m staffed on 4 M&A deals trying to close by year end, so it’s not looking promising.

What are you all reading other than maternity help books? Any book recommendations for after baby is born? Mainly around how to keep the baby safe from injuries and incidents.

Any thought in working 3x12s a week vs a typical 5x8 or 4x10? I am working 3x12 and have to work some weekends and I am not sure if I like it. I am 25yrs lmk maybe I am just young? Thoughts?

When are the hike letters released in capgemini.
Also which month joiners of 2022 will be eligible for hike.

Is there anyone who works currently or has worked for Travelers Insurance in Hartford CT? Looking for an idea on compensation, benefits and your opinion on the company. I’m interviewing for the Operations Manager role

Anyone work at ProAssurance/MedMarc? Have potential to move for 25% higher salary and fully remote work, but wondering if there’s advancement opportunity and how the culture is. Thanks!

Has anyone heard of a retention bonus with a clawback period of 3 years? Like you get paid in 3 installments but you have to pay back 100 percent of the money if you work a day less than 3 years?

How long are you typically on the phone each day? My phone time has steadily increased throughout the pandemic to around 6 hours per day

Anybody want to share stories about regretting a lateral move? Just gave notice and having some second thoughts

Hi fishes, My timings are from 12 to 9 and HR is asking us to come thrice a week and also spend more than 4 to 5 hrs in office and then go home and continue from there. This will create a huge problem if they start calling daily. Anyone else facing this issue? Can anything be done for this? Since i have joined this organization everything seems weird here.

Has anyone worked with Sia Admissions? If so, what’s your perception?

Hi. Looking for info reg how log in and log out card swipe data is monitored at TCS. Who can access this data ... managers and team members? Do HR conduct an audit of the log in details of associates?

What are our preferred perpetual calendar watches ?

Just curious. Excluding business recovery / restructuring teams that are more counter-cyclical. What TS group do you think is the least cyclical? Valuation / modeling? Accounting advisory? Then lastly how “cyclical” do you view them?

What is expected of an associate in FDD? Especially when there is no senior on the team. Would I be acting senior? How can I better help the team with my limited experience? I just transferred from Audit to FDD.

For those in big 4, how much time between accepting an offer and start date have you been able to ask for? Is a month feasible/how should one phrase it? Two weeks just doesn’t feel like enough with this heavy burnout/having to wrap up deals at old firm

I recently got offer from ey gds for 23 lpa, currently having 7 years of experience, good to join at this package or should negotiate with HR?

Best bar or restaurant to watch the World Cup matches this weekend? And go!

Hi Guys,
I am joining as QA in Apisero.
How is the work life balance?
How will they do the BGV?
Pls help me with the above questions.

Real talk- is joining Biogen as a data scientist a smart move, post adu drama and fresh CEO? Afraid that the company will restructure right after I join…

Accepted offer to leave consulting (3 YoE, no previous lab experience) to join corp strategy team at biotech, any advice on what to do during the first couple of weeks?

Hey! Anyone here work with Admit Advantage? I’ve searched the bowl and can’t find any previous posts. Met Erik last week and he gave me the best advice (of all the admissions consultants I’ve spoken too).

Does anyone feel there brain just dosent grasp things as quick as others

Not sure what to expect from this app. Kind of new to me. But how do people handle depression and anxiety in the workplace? I’ve been getting panic and anxiety attacks lately. My doctor prescribed Wellbutrin. Has anyone had success with this med? Has it affected your ability to work?

Dealing with asshole client who tried to bully me into changing our recommendations, and spineless partner who is back pedaling now given client reaction, despite pre-aligning on our view. People suck

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

I was a very different person in college. After an unfortunate event, I turned into a sour and rude person. I’m blunt and honest (maybe too honest), but realized this behavior may have...

My therapist just told me I'm depressed..do you ever feel like they tell you things you hear a lot or could have figured out on your own? Like take care of yourself, it's ok to feel such and such, etc. I'm still newer to therapy so wondering if that's the common experience? Do you ever have moments where you're like wow that actually is eye opening and I wouldn't have gotten that from reading self help books and websites etc?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Do you share your struggles of depression and/or anxiety with your parents/family? Especially when not living with them.
Should I be? It's a lot of effort to sound ... happy or normal on the phone. But don't want to make them worry either.

Does anyone’s face freeze up when you start talking during a presentation? Idk if it’s my anxiety acting up physically or not. Mentally I dont feel that nervous, but my body tenses up physically.

About month ago I was diagnosed with coronary artery disease (CAD) and had to go through cardiac catheterization to get a stent.
I am in mid 30s and it's unbelievable that i have got this. Have been quite down mentally for last few weeks, and don't think if I can sustain the consulting life anymore.
I am working hard to stop the progression of disease and potentially reverse it. Hope things work out.

Fish fam! Need some help. I am a 23 year old male and I know that I am really wise beyond my years. I am just not having fun any more with what an average 20 something year thinks is fun. I want CONT

Anyone get very depressed and anxious specifically around their birthday?? Comes around every year and it’s hard because people are asking me how I’m going to celebrate or what the plan is. It’s about a month from now and every year I feel more anxious and depressed around it, I’m only 23. Wish I could just time travel to later in the year or something.

I feel stuck. This job is hard. Feels like lots of people piling on while I’m away from home and my SO. It would be nice to feel more supported and have less toxic clients.

I was wondering if anyone in this group is or knows about groups to support attorneys who are/have been suspended and how to handle it with life. Frankly the state bar isn't a good resource and it's starting to impact my career in not practicing the law. I've been working for a non attorney job in my company for years and was recently told my suspension means I'd never get it. Boy that was a blow that triggered depression and anxiety, still there as it's been less than a year week.

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

having vivid violent dreams I can remember which has never happened. Pretty depressed also for reasons. Struggling to get out of bed let alone exercise. Feel inadequate for lacking mental strength

I tried so hard today to finish all my errands and read and even worked out. And I'm taking medication and keeping my diet healthy. But today I realized I don't have anyone to talk to anymore when this image of me hanging keep popping up in my head. I couldn't even tell my psychiatrist. I'm searching for places that can handle my weight. I even cried full on which has not been happening since I started taking medication for depression. Is this anxiety? Or my brain is just ready let go finally.

I've always have a constant fear of getting fired/ bad reviews - any little thing I do wrong or get feedback on I get I pretend I'm fine with but it really makes me even more anxious. Is this normal?

Has anyone dealt with a therapist not being able to see you (virtually) while you are temporarily located in another state? I’m struggling with coordinating my work and when I’ll be in my home state with my sessions because apparently I can only be seen when I’m physically in my home state. Are there different types of lisences I should look for that would allow someone to treat me while traveling? It’s all very confusing…

How do I get better with frustration with family (even though warranted)? Therapy?