Just want to vent how I feel jipped by my friends - especially when it comes to trips where we book airbnbs. They back out last minute and no one else wants to cover the costs evenly when I ask. Trying to be the bigger person since some of these are unavoidable (injury and Covid and etc) but just feel shitty it’s always me who picks up the tabs. If it were me I don’t ask for my money back or at least be willing to evenly split

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I feel you. I used to be the “planner” of the group too. I have since stepped back from always playing that role and also found some new friends

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I was this person, too. My last straw was when I ended up covering a $1k cabin bc everyone bailed. When people want to make plans now, I ask for budget, then share what places fit it and ask for money upfront with the understanding that if they bail, they don’t get it back. If they don’t want to do that, then sorry boo, I’m not booking it and we’re all getting our own hotel room. Take it or leave it 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I agree - ask for the $ upfront, if they can’t commit they aren’t guaranteed a spot 🤷‍♀️

Your friends don't get to bail and not pay. That's not a thing in my friend group.

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