Keep telling myself I’ll never meet anyone. Being in Europe and seeing white cohort easily access relationships has messed me up. I definitely know I’m attractive but I’m aware I’m not the first draft pick. Also, I’ve seen what’s out there and it’s bleak. 26 and just feel so old and dead

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26 is SOO young. All of my girls found out partners in the 28-30 range.

When you find the right person it goes much faster when you're older because you already know what you like/don't like and there's (generally) less games.

Date around and enjoy yourself now

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Hi queen, you’re beautiful in your own way. I totally understand and feel you. Are you open to dating outside your race? I know some European countries love black folks (eg Italy). Maybe, take a trip there if you’re not in the country. I also find visiting majority black countries a boost to myself esteem too. It’s still not the same but it helps!

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Honestly felt the same during my 20s. All my white friends were slipping in and out of relationships, dating around and having fun and unfortunately black girls (and asian men) get the short end of the dating stick. For now....as cliche as it is...date yourself! Do what you want to do, enjoy life! Take fun classes, go on adventures, do what YOU want to do and you may just find someone who shares your passions simply because you took the chance on yourself. Hope this makes sense.

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You're only 26. You have plenty of time. Date often and expand your search. Be open to dating non-black people.

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I’m open. I think I’m just not okay and haven’t been for a while so I don’t think it can happen

29 and just entered my first relationship. It’s possible

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