Ladies, do you stay friends with problematic people? For context, I just started a master’s and there’s a guy who has said some inappropriate things, which I’ve politely called him out on. He and I overlap in a lot of organizations, and he’s always treated me with respect and considers us friends, but I sense undertones of sexism and racism even if they haven’t overtly materialized. I’m not sure if I should cut him out of my life or just continue to keep him at a distance.

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I would keep a distance but maintain positive relations with him given there is quite a bit of overlap until you’re done with the degree

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Distance. Avoiding of "undertones" is different than someone putting pappy's old sheet on on Friday nights, so for me it is also a question of has the person had any opportunities to broaden their horizon, how vicious are these opinions?

By making a respectful acquaintanceship you have opportunities to challenge him on his thinking. Is this your job? No. But if he only exists in a bubble of "woman make me a sandwich" he will be more problematic.

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