Ladies - do you text guys you’re dating while you’re busy with work or do you generally just not contact them?

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Hey, I’m a girl.
Trust me - no matter what, we always make time for the people we’re interested in.
She takes a lunch, she goes to the bathroom right ?
Takes a few second to send a simple message saying “ hey I’m thinking of you”
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Move on Boo
You deserve better

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AGREED!!!!!!!

Hi also a girl here! I can echo that I don’t love texting at work when I’m super busy because if I respond to one text I feel like I’m saying I’m available for a whole texting convo when I’m not. Unless it’s a one-off answer to something I usually wait until I have a little more free time to text back. If she’s still making time to see you then she’s still interested 😊

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^maybe true to some extent but not all girls are exactly the same. It’s tough to say one way or the other. Talk with her honestly about what you’re thinking. Nobody here is going to be able to give you a silver bullet

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See now that’s what I did. She said she’s busy and didn’t talk to anyone daily unless she’s ‘romantically involved’ with them......lol. My first instinct is to run but I like her other than that. I’m not getting any younger tho

Come on. Everyone is literally attached to their phones these days. If she wants to text you she can make time.

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You should tell her how you feel or you'll resent her for it. It could only get better!

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I actually suck at texting back my bf at work during busy season 🙊 but I make it up by making plans with him every weekend even if I have to put some work in!

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I’m just rly bad at multi tasking. If it’s a short thing where he legit has a question he needs answered, I’ll respond quickly. But if he’s just trying to make small talk, I kind of put it low on priority until my workload gets a little lighter. I actually talked to him about this before busy season on what my texting style is so he doesn’t take it personally haha. But I also make time for him. If you’re asking her to hang out on the weekend and she’s not very responsive or not trying to sacrifice some of her time to spend with you, I would take that as a bad sign. I also have FaceTimed or gave him a quick call on my way from the office to my place just to catch up and see how his day went. I think you would know if she’s interested if she’s putting in effort in other ways. Hope this helps a little! Communication is key.

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I’m a girl and I do not enjoy texting while at work, especially during busy season. A guy I was talking to also had the same complaint that I had become distant and hardly bothered talking to him. However, when I’m at work I am not good at multitasking and don’t want to start a conversation I know I cannot finish. Additionally I also worked really long hours (much longer than him) and he never understood that on Sundays my only day off all I wanted to do was sleep. Busy season is hard... but you need to have a conversation with her upfront and ask her what she wants!

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Counterpoint: I really don’t care to text/snapchat someone all day about nothing. I prefer to text if there’s something to be said or if we’re making plans, but otherwise I don’t want to be connected to them 24/7.

Might not apply to your situation here but hopefully it helps!

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Girl here! I am the absolutely worst texter backer when I’m busy. Everyone knows if it’s an emergency to call me cause I won’t text. I try to keep my phone as far away as possible to be the most efficient but do have alerts sent to my watch so I will know if someone calls me. I agree that you should just talk to her. Make sure y’all are on the same page.

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I am not sure what you mean. Basically I do my best to not text at work. I’ll respond once I am home for the night. If I’m working late, I may not respond until the next day. I just don’t want to get distracted and add time to my already hectic workday. If I have a slower day, I may text back more often. But usually when I’m busy, I’ll catch up at night or on weekends. Just talk to her. See where she’s at as far as your relationship goes and make sure y’all have the same expectations

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Honestly busy season sucks and we don’t have time to flirt. Give her a break, if anyone should understand, it’s someone else who is in public accounting .

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I’m a girl and I hate texting anyone during the day, whether it’s busy season or not. I just don’t enjoy texting to text, so she may be the same way. It’s way better to just spend time together on the weekend instead and maybe FaceTime one evening

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Backed off for the week and haven’t heard a word. I don’t have time for games so why not be up front right away, you know? I’m over it haha

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She did you a favor :)
You deserve better !

I ask because I’ve been on a few dates with a someone who works in PA too for a different firm. I’m in tax so I’ve been busy, but always make time to talk with her. Now her busy season is kicking in and she’s super distant, but yet interested. Not sure if I’m overreacting or if she’s maybe a bit too into the numbers for me and it’s time to move on before getting in too deep

Thanks for the responses! I know she’s responsive on Skype but that’s more work related and with her bffs. I’m just going to sit back and see how it plays out because it bugs me.

I recommend at least one text in the morning such as good morning sunshine, I hope you have a wonderful day etc. this will make a huge diff in her days. Guys should be more proactive. Don’t shoot her more messages if she didn’t respond. If you do it constantly, she will know that you’re thinking about her everyday. Just let her go thru her busy seasons.

If a guy texted me “good morning sunshine” I think that would be the text that didn’t make me respond lol

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The worst part about dating is the constant text thread that never ends. I don’t have the time when I’m at work to be cute and witty. Needless to say, I still made time to text during work with someone I was interested in 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ugh that’s the best part of dating! Married ten years and all my texts to my husband are like “don’t forget to pick up milk after work”. FML

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Sounds like it’s ova

Hilarious thing is I started going out with other women after this. Showing zero interest and she starts contacting me again. I’m still showing no interest

I agree with PwC 3. Give her a break and TALK TO HER. that’s literally the only way you will know if she’s into you or not. I know I was swamped this week and barely spoke to my family and friends, let alone anyone I maybe might one day consider dating. Just chill. Her world doesn’t revolve around you the moment y’all start talking

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