Ladies help! Dream job offer but in Bay Area. Based out of NY and my entire life is here. BF and I planning to take the plunge in a year or so (who is also in NY). What should I do ???

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Take it! It’s a dream job. This is an opportunity for new adventures and to get out of your comfort zone!!! Bf can move, or do LDR temporarily.

Also congrats on the offer!!

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Congrats!!!

If this is your dream job, you should express that to your partner. We can only offer advice but at the end of the day we don’t know your relationship. Best of luck!!

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Seriously seriously seriously consider what it’s worth to you. The cost of moving is high. The cost of leaving a city you know and love and where your life is - even higher. Lived in the Bay Area my whole life and compared to New York, San Francisco is absolute garbage and filth. If you’re anywhere else in the bay like San Jose, then that’s maybe livable. But it’s going to be a major suburban shock compared to living in New York

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Congratulations! Take into account that SF/Bay Area cost of living can be higher than NYC. Does the role salary provide you the lifestyle you want? If you were planning to move there anyways in a year, I don’t see why not do it now, if the role fits! You can have a temporary long distance relationship, and great test for your relationship.

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Thank you all ! I have some big things to think through :(

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If your whole life is in NY you can probably move back easily, no? It’s worth trying something different for a year or two to really confirm what you love or don’t love about a place. In my life, I’ve always tried to make sure I’m actively deciding to live somewhere because I want to and not because I ended up there or just let time go by. I would take your time to assess- ask the company to fly you out to SF to get to know the team, subsidize or cover your apartment search, etc. Tell them you’re exciting but need to make a decision about the location as well in order to commit for the long term (mentally you could approach it as a trial year but they don’t need to know that). A trial year would also make things easier for your relationship- if you move and love it that’s one thing, but if you move and hate it then you make a plan to go back and your partner doesn’t need to uproot themselves. It is also worth assessing if remote work is an option at all or if you 1000% need to be in SF.

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I don’t even consider jobs cross country to be honest, since I would only be thinking about when I could move back

Go for it. You can always move back if it doesn’t work. Better to try something then to miss an opportunity and wonder if you should have taken it. Just be realistic that it might be bumpy at first as you adjust but that’s ok and expected

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