Ladies! Help, how much should I give as a wedding gift as Maid of Honor? I gave $60ish for bridal shower gift already. I’ve known the bride over 10 years

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What’s your budget? What are you spending on being MOH? What’s her wedding style? I’d go with something from the registry or gift card or $100 cash (if that doesn’t stretch you) and a handwritten card or sentimental gift as well.

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Also depends on what you can afford and how much else youre spending on being in the wedding.

Destination wedding? Destination bachelorette? Keep it minimal, maybe add to a house fund or something.

Local everything? Love her like a sis? Splurge a little to what youre comfortable spending!

Assuming shes not superficial and ties your monetary spending to your appreciation of your friendship the gesture / being there on her day of and supporting her probably means more ☺️

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Nothing. You’ve given enough. And I’m saying that as someone who got married 3 weeks ago and hope my MOH doesn’t get me anything more than she has.

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My MOH for my destination weddings gave $100 cash (she didn’t bring a plus one) and I was thrilled. It was a destination wedding and she also planned my bachelorette. I didn’t have a shower and she didn’t have to buy a new dress or pay for hair and makeup but I know the destination weddings and bachelorette still cost her $1000 or so.

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$150 is plenty. The most I gave for my closest friends and family was $400 (from my husband and me combined)

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How much can you afford? Pay for your plate at least. I’d give $500 , don’t feel pressured though

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No! There is no etiquette rule that says you should “pay for your plate.” You are a guest and they are the hosts. They pay for your meal. You’re not obligated to “reimburse” them with a gift.

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I agree, 500-700 seems the right range if it’s truly a close friend

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It varies. I know women who make <60k who fork over gifts in excess of 1k. I know women who make 500k+ who (as MOH) gave gifts in the 200$ range.

I would hope your friendship endures beyond a price tag. You give what brings you joy and what you feel comfortable with from a financial standpoint. Haters will hate (either if they believe it is too much or too little)…don’t give based on what you think others will think of you.

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Thanks everyone! For more context, I’m paying almost $200 for hair and makeup day of (brides choice), gave bridal shower gift as mentioned in the original post, and planned a whole bachelorette destination + helped plan bridal shower. I think based on the comments and what I was initially thinking, might do $100-$150. Also no plus one, will be going solo. Let me know if this sounds reasonable!

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Depends how close this bride is. I can see myself splurging for certain friends who are like sisters to me- jewelry… upwards of 1k?

Why would you give jewelry as a wedding gift? And $1k is way over the top.

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I usually give $300-500 for close friends/family and $200 for everyone else. However I’m in a high cost of living city

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