Ladies, how do you manage kids and work? Do you have supportive partners? My partner is very supportive us and is more than just 50% effort but I don’t know how to decide re. having a baby.

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You can do it! It’s tough sometimes, but just prioritizing and managing your time as best as you can are life savers. I have 2 kids now, 1 and 4.5 and it’s definitely doable. I’m still the top biller in the office, and I’m ok with leaving a little early to pick the kids up, get them dinner and to bed, and then doing more work in the evenings if needed. I don’t stay in the office until 7 pm anymore, and that’s ok! Some days are better than others- sometimes I feel like I’m putting in too much effort to work and not enough to the family, and other days I end up being mom a bit more than an employee. It all works out though and I live by my calendar and planning ahead!

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Not going to lie, it can be tough. My husband is very involved and takes the lion's share of the kid/household duties because he has the more flexible job. We don't live near family so we also rely on the help of a babysitter, a backup babysitter, and friends.

I try to leave the office by 6 so I can see the kids before they go to bed. Once they're asleep, I log back in to finish the day.

To stay connected to my husband, we have a lunch date once a week. His office isn't that far from mine.

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Go for it!! Being a mom is the most amazing and fulfilling role in the world. I love being a lawyer and didn’t and wouldn’t give that up but being a mom is on another level.

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I’m a single mom and bill more than most. You have to stay focused when at the office and be prepared to work early before they rise and/or after they go to sleep. You can balance it/have it all. If you have a husband to support you and share the responsibility then the same applies, but you’ll have more free time to spend with your husband and kids.

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I don't have a partner. Full time lawyer and mom. You just do it.

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Agree that you can do it. The baby years are very tough and outsourcing as much as possible helps a little bit. It gets easier as they get older.

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Thank you, all very helpful. My biggest pain point (in my head) is managing work. How do manage to stay current with hours?

Very helpful, I’ll try it. Thank you.

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